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posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    hello bees,  im MOH for my friend who is getting married next year and we are starting to hash out the invites and other paperwork needed and ive hit a bump that im not sure what to do

    the bride isnt from this country, she has no family here at all but does have siblings that she is close to but they cant make it for the wedding and live in another country

    so for the programs where we would usually write info about the brides family - as there is no one attending what can we do about acknowledging she has family so people can put some names to her life even though they arent going to be there

    can we print something like "family in absentia"???  she wants people to know she has a brother and sister and list them but they arent dead or attending so what do we do?

    many thanks for your advice,  we are currently looking at the layout and its upsetting her because her FI has such a big family (which is good, she loves it) and on the program its pretty obvious that she has no one

     
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    Ms.Shamrock    July 21, 2011  

    I don't think I would write "in abstentia" because if I read that, I would feel really sorry for her. Couldn't you just write something like:

     

    Sarah, sister of the bride, sends Best Wishes from Copenhagen

    (or whatever the details are.)

    That way, they'll know she has siblings, know they aren't there, but lively wedding festivities wouldn't turn into a pity party?

    Does that help a little?

     
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    kingytobe    June 26, 2011  

    I am interested in the responses. Kingy's sister has cerebral palsy and can't make the 17 hour flight here for the wedding.. but we have something in there about remembering kingy's deceased father and for some reason i feel like that makes it awkward to put something about the sister without making her sound dead, you know??

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    thanks Ms S, i think the best wishes line is the best one so we'll go with that

     

     

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