- 2010 4th of July Wedding
- 8 years ago
We’re keeping our wedding program to 1/2 page printed on both sides. We’re also sticking to the basics, nothing resembling an order of events. It will be limited to wedding party participants, songs for ceremony, singer, reader, and loved ones gone, and then a note from us to thank our guests for sharing the day with us.
My mother (who I miss every single day) has been deceased for 2-1/2 years was divorced from my father who is MIA from my life for at least 30 years. So, the program is set up as: Mrs. XXXXX XXXXX – Aunt of the Bride; and Mr. XXXX XXXX – Honorary Escort for the Bride. My aunt is my second mother, and I wanted to give her the place holder of Mother in the wedding celebration. My Mother would have been pleased for me to treat her closest sister of 8 with such honor. My mother is listed at the top of loved ones gone, which is rather long us . Because of keeping the program to a half page (both sides) space is limited, so I don’t have room to say Bride’s Parents and then underneath my mother and then my close friend escorting me; and where would I put my aunt in that case? It just won’t fit, and I am cormfortable with honoring my aunt in this way.
My finance has the complications. His parents are divorced and his mother and father and father’s wife remain amicable. My finance tells me that he has never been close to his father’s wife despite their marriage of about 20 years. In fact, she encouraged his father to “forget” he had other children that what they had during his childhood. Time has mellowed the situation yet we have, as of the 5 years of being together, been to their home – perhaps a few meals with other family members at a restaurant has been the gist of it. Neven any one-on-one time with us.
To get to the question: Do we include her in the wedding program? I have Mrs. XXXX XXXX – Mother of the Groom. Next Line is Mr. XXXX XXXX – Father of the Groom. Is this wrong? After his mother, should the next line be Mr. and Mrs. XXXX XXXX – Parents of the Groom? Doesn’t that detract from his real mother, esp. since the wife was never a real parent? After 5 years I still don’t know her well enough to discern if she would expect to be listed, or not really care at all.
The groom’s mother and my aunt will be presented with roses during the ceremony (not list on the wedding program) and his father will be a groomsman, if that is any factor in making a recommendation. I certainly need someone to help me sort this out.