[Program Wording Help] Is it required/mandatory for ceremony and/or reception?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
11626 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think the only time programs are necessary is if the setup of the wedding may be unfamiliar to guests, or if there are elements you want audience participation in.  Religious weddings often have them, because usually there are guests who do not follow that particular religion, so the program gives them a hint of what to do when.  My parents (Catholic) went to a Jewish wedding, and commented on how much they liked that the programs explained what the customs actually meant, so they knew what they were seeing.

In our programs, we had the bridal party and our parents names on one side, the order of events on the right, and a thank you note to our guests on the back.  They were very simple and straightforward, but I don’t think they were at all necessary, since we had a secular wedding that lasted only 20 minutes. 

If you opt to do programs, you an also add a section in that says “Today we remember all of those who cannot be here with us today, but without whom, we would not be who we are: Deceased’s names” (and any other deceased relatives you’d like to include).

Post # 5
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had them for our Catholic ceremony because most of our guests weren’t Catholic and I wanted them to know what was going on. I have no idea if they appreciated them. As a guest, I always appreciate them so I know how long it’s gonna last and what to expect.

As for the parents names, can you just list everyone and put “the late” in front of his? For example…

Mother of the bride: Mary Smith

Father of the bride: The late John Smith

Mother of the groom: Jane Doe

Father of the groom: Joe Doe

Post # 7
715 posts
Busy bee


I enjoy reading them at weddings & learn more about the church service / the couple. 

I don’t think they have to be expensive at all. 
If you don#t have the budget to do expensive ones, then you could just use colored printer paper and make a trifold programm… 

that should be quite cheap and you can use a nice design to make them look nice. 

as a guest i care about the info on the programm not that much about that it’s printed on cardstock and decorated with embelishments…

Post # 8
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I did not have a program.

I basically did not need to take on any more work or spend any more money on something that most of my guests would not appreciate.


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