Programs and Menus Help

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Which wedding stationary should you have?
    You definitely need programs : (20 votes)
    25 %
    Programs are a waste of effort and money : (17 votes)
    21 %
    You definitely need a menu : (10 votes)
    13 %
    You might need a menu depending on the food situation : (27 votes)
    34 %
    There's really no point in having a menu : (6 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    If your guests have a choice in the food selection, you’ll want to offer them a menu. 

    Personally, I’d include the fixed Options (no choices, just list what’s being served), then for entree & dessert outlin ethe choices with the ‘select one’ of the following” or some such text.  I’m guessing your caterer would also be glad to help youon the verbiage.

    Post # 4
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    There was a post a few days back about what NOT to waste your money on, and programs came up the most.  However, I actually am doing them (already ordered them before post was written).  But I’m doing them as fans, so double duty.  I’m putting the order of the ceremony on them (solo, processional, welcome, vow exchange, recessional – next to each who is performing it).  Then below that is a list of the people (officiant, parents, wedding party, solpist).  I haven’t finished mine yet or I’d post a pic with this.

    I’m not doing a menu, and I think that’s easily one to skip and save on.  We are doing selected entrees, so guests know what they’re getting.  We are doing passed appetizers during cocktail hour, so carrying around a menu isn’t feasible (the waiters can tell guests what it is).

    I don’t think guests will notice if a program or menu is missing.  If they want to know something, they can ask.

    Post # 6
    592 posts
    Busy bee

    I have alway been one to say that programs are a waste but when we got married my husband insisted on having them.  His reasoning was that people like to have something to hold in their hands and to look at occasionally while they wait for the ceremony to start.  Just to keep busy.  I was skeptical at first but I was just at a wedding this weekend and thought to my self “wow, he was right.”  Now I am glad we had them at our wedding.  I am also glad that I did not spend too much money on it (my was a DIY project) because at the end of the day they just basically get thrown out.  So I vote yes for the programs, but would not spend too much money on them.

    Our program was very simples.  We had our name, date, location.  We list the names of our moms, bridal party, and officiant.  We had message of rememberace for our dads and thank you note for the people attending. 

    I think the menu is good to have because people would want to know what they are having.  We list the fixed appetizer, then the entree choices, then the fixed dessert.  Again I print these out myself so they were cheap. Also since people may have dietary restriction, I described the dishes in details including the main ingredients. 

    Post # 8
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @subola Touche! You would never know I work full time all year round today… slow day at the office.  Yeah we are asking for the entree selections on the RSVPs.  I didn’t want to tack on another project or expense, so I said to heck with a menu. I’m waiting on my soloist to pick a song before I finish the programs, but I can send you a pic when they’re done (if you chose to do programs).  Happy wedding planning!

    Post # 9
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @GeorgiaBride5: I noticed a menu was missing. I just attended a friends’ wedding this past weekend, and I wish they had a menu. Although we selected our meals in our RSVPs, that was months ago and we had no recollection of what we selected; so when the servers came by saying “who had chicken” (unprofessional but I’m not getting into that lol), I honestly didn’t remember, especially because “chicken” is so vague and we have other weddings to select chicken meals for too lol.

    Menus can be done super cost-effectively, and I wish we had had one there, and I will DEFINITELY be having one!


    Post # 10
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Programs are kind of a waste unless you’re having a long-er ceremony, or something involved. We’re just doing a chalkboard with the order of events, song titles, and people’s names.

    I AM having a menu, but it’s just one printout and it’ll be framed on the buffet table. I’ve been to too many weddings where the buffet food was unrecognizable and had no signs.

    Post # 11
    571 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had programs but no menu for ours, but the meal selections were made with the RSVP card. We colour coded the escort tags so the guests and the servers would know who got which selection. Unless the meal choices are made at the table, I’ve never felt the need for a menu at a wedding.

    I definitely wanted programs for several reasons. I always appreciate having an order of service to follow along with the ceremony, especially if it is a very long, religious one. I went to a wedding before where they had no program but the ceremony was nearly 2 hours long and not in English. You had to stand, then kneel, and recite passages at various parts and I had zero clue what was going on. The other reason was I wanted to acknowlege the various members of our bridal party and our families on paper somewhere. None of our grandparents are in a position to travel so we wanted a note in there to remember them. It ended up being really hot the day of the wedding, so people were happy to have the programs to use as fans too!

    We didn’t have to spend anything on our programs because DH designed our stationery suite himself. We didn’t even have to buy the paper because I had a ton of cardstock from another event I’d organized previously, so it wasn’t a cost issue, but even if we’d’ve had to pay for them, programs wouldn’t have cost too much if you get them printed yourself.





    Post # 13
    1754 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    The only reason we had programs was because we needed somewhere to stick the words to the hymns. Other than that, they are not neccessary. I think they’re nice, though.

    The menus are really only needed if your guests are making a choice. 

    Post # 14
    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I did both.

    Programs: I will be using a large frame and matte and am printing out one porgram for everyone to see as they walk in. It has names of the wedding party (our brothers and sisters), the parents, grandmother and officient. It also has a breif itinerary (intro, processional, ring warming, etc.)

    Menus: We are having tapas and there will be both a lot of courses and a lot of things that people will probably have no idea what it is. So I did menues for every place setting. I really enjoyed making them and they were pretty simple. There is even a nice spelling mistake for all my friends to heckle me over. 🙂

    Post # 15
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Could you do a menu in a stand for the table as the PP described? Then people would know what was coming, which I would personally appreciate, but I don’t want my own. I’m never sure where to put extra paper when I sit down at a table. Does it go under the plate? In the middle of the table (seems wrong, like it messes up the look)? Am I supposed to have somewhere to put it (because my purse is not big enough)?

    I like programs so I know who’s who and whats coming next but probably unnecessary if you have a short ceremony.

    Post # 16
    153 posts
    Blushing bee

    I feel programs are a waste of effort and paper unless there is something unique about the ceremony that warrants explanation, such as a special ceremony or cultural components.  If I am close to the couple, I don’t need a program to tell me who everyone is and if I don’t know them well, I really don’t care What the name of the flower girl is.  I hate to see all that paper and ink tossed.

    i kind of feel the same about menu cards.  Post the menu one place or on each table, we can share..I don’t need my own!

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