Post # 1
So after many talks and serious thinking. We have decided to push the engagement timeline to the end of the year. His son is moving in in 10 days and our focus needs to be completely on him. He has been getting into trouble at home. I’m excited for this next step. But I did let him know that I will not be playing house. Now that there is a child involved he has to stop procrastinating. And get everythIng in Order. I’m happy about this progress. It’s been 5 years since he has seen his son. He lives in london we live in California.
Post # 3
How long have you guys been together?
I dated a guy on and off for 5 years who had a son. I loved the kid. Got very attached. Probabaly stayed around a lot longer than I should have with the father because I wanted to try and make it work for the ‘family.’ The father was not right for me. Don’t play house!
With that said, my fiance and I have been together nearly four years. I got very frustrated with him because he didn’t propose until a couple months ago. I wasn’t sure it was ever going to happen! I stuck around because I knew we are a good team. I could tell he was struggling a bit with making things official because he was married once before, and scared.
In situations like this, keeping the communication going, and open is really important.
Post # 4
It’s good that you and your SO have been talking and have a timeline in place! Woohoo!!
And I think it’s good that you let him have time to focus on his son. You being there for him will make you both stronger as a couple
Post # 5
@iloverocks: We’ve been together 3 years. I brought up this pushback. He was actually taken aback. Lol. He wanted to propise before he gets here but I told him to wait a few months to see our family dynamic. It’s a big step but I wouldn’t have it any other way. 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks. 🙂 I am excited. He has missed him terribly. And he understands my reasoning for not wanting to play house. His response was whether he was coming or not you wouldn’t be “playing house” for much longer definitely not In the year 2014. Lol. He is sweet.