Post # 1
Yesterday my friend and I had a debate over what the purpose was of a promise ring? To be honest, this was the first time I ever heard of such a thing….is this common and I have just had my head in the sand the whole time??
Post # 3
I grew up in the church and these were pretty common among my older friends (I was in HS and they were in college). The man would give the woman a promise ring to let her know that he promised to propose. It didn’t really ever make sense to me…if you’re promising to propose, then propose! But, I don’t know, I guess it was just another level of commitment. A lot of HS seniors did this too.
Post # 4
@jenewitt: see that was my arguement too….if you are promising to propose then save your money and buy the real thing and just ASK….when my gf told me about this I thought she was kidding to be honest. This is why I thought I would ask, maybe it was something that I just didnt know about…..
Post # 5
Before DH and I were ever engaged he got me a promise ring for our 2 year anniversary. It was his way of saying ” I am committed to you and plan to stay with you”. I wore it up until the moment he proposed.
Post # 6
My FI wanted to give me a promise ring after about a year together…I was only 19 at the time, and thought the same thing: it was an “engaged to be engaged” ring, and I felt like I was too young. So, he wrote me a letter (which I still have), and said:
I promise to love you to the best of my ability, be there for you whenever you
need me regardless of what is going on. I promise be the best boyfriend I
can possibly be and I promise to understand that we are at different points
in our lives. I promise to constrantly work on our relationship and always
be truthful about how I feel and will never lie to you about anything. I
promise I will try to make you the happiest girl ever and I will do anything
for you. Most of all, I promise to be your best friend by listening when you
want me to listen, and give you advice when you ask for it, and never judge
you no matter what happens to us romantically. I promise you that you will
have a friend forever, and hope to be with you for as long as we are meant
to be together.
I think for different people it can mean different things. For us it was a promise to always be there for one another, no matter what happened with our relationship,and an understanding that we loved and respected one another not only romantically but as friends too. And for me, that was what made it special 🙂
Post # 7
I believe they’re popular, but I never really knew that before weddingbee. I never had one, but my understanding is that they are supposed to symbolize a promise of marriage eventually. Which is what I consider my engagement ring to be, but they come possibly years before the ering. I know I saw some threads on here where several girls posted pics of thiers. (I also think this has been a debate here as well in the past so tread carefully.) I would have loved one because I could wear it as a RHR after getting engaged- I like what they stand for & the history they show between the couple.
Post # 8
Fi gave me a promise ring too, my senior year in hs, We had been together about 2 years, i wore it up until he proposed, where he took off that ring, and replaced it with my engagement ring.
Post # 9
@sara_tiara: awww that is so sweet ;))))))
Post # 10
I have a promise ring/pre-engagement ring that my fiance gave me a number of years ago before we got engaged. It was pretty inexpensive – under $100 from Walmart. Our reason for it was that our relationship was long distance and my fiance wanted me to have a reminder that I was loved and despite the distance we would make it work.
Mine was (and still is) very important to me, but I freely admit they’re not for everybody and that it’s best to limit the money spent on one 🙂
Post # 11
FI gave me a promise ring about 9-months into our relationship. He wanted it to signify that he intended on proposing at a later date, as he felt that we were too young to be engaged (I was 19; him 21).. and, especially after only 9 months.
Post # 12
I’m not a big fan of promise rings, esp. when the couple is in later college years. If you are ready to give your heart to someone, then I think you ought to get engaged (no matter how little the ring :] )
I think my thoughts on promise rings were influenced by a couple of my friends that used them as bargining chips in their relationships (giving them back in a fight, then making a big deal when their boyfriend gave it back to them again, and on and on) and I don’t think they would have done that with an actual engagement ring. It made promise rings seem like they weren’t a big deal.
However, I think they are really sweet when the couple is younger or very religious, like the boy gives it to his girlfriend when they are in their teens and they date for years and then get engaged.
Post # 13
My FI gave me a promise ring on our first anniversary. We never thought of it as being a pre-engagement ring or a “promise to propose” or anything like that. For us it’s a symbol of where we were in our relationship at the time. When he gave it to me, neither of us were even thinking about marriage yet, he just wanted to give me a gift that showed that he was taking this relationship seriously. I really like the sentiment of it. I still wear it everyday (on my right hand) and I plan to continue to wear it even after we are married. It’s just a piece of jewelry that reminds me of how far we’ve come together. 🙂
Post # 14
@Soon to be Mrs M: Thank you!! Yeah, he’s a keeper 😛
I think it’s a personal decision, same as whether you want a diamond or gemtsone engagement ring….for some people it makes sense, for others it doesn’t. I also think what PP have saids in previous threads is true: it seems to be more something people do when they’re younger and know they’ll get married eventually but aren’t ready yet (maybe they’re in school, etc etc)
Post # 15
They are more popular in some circles than others. at my old church the girls there loved promise rings, but the church I go to currently its nearly unheard of.
Personally I dont like them and I have to stop myself from rolling my eyes when someone shows me their promise ring. I always thought an engagement ring was a symbol of a promise that he would marry you so I struggle to understand why you need a promise ring before the engagement ring. But having said that I chose not to have an e-ring at all, so I may just be the odd minority
Post # 16
I don’t really get them either, but to each their own. I’d rather just have a the engagement ring when he’s actually proposing, not a ring that says he plans to propose.