Promotion for DH + moving + freaking out/anxious/excited!

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

@mrstea83:  

Well that is a lot al happening at once, but overall you sound excited, and you should be! 

You have some sensible plans in place with the FIL and are being really practical about your futurs, so I don’t understand where the tension and resentment from both sides of the family comes from.

Of course they will miss you both, but as you said surely they don’t want to hold you back. When your DH is fully established, you may be able to move back to your hometown, but it isn’t that likely and I guess they have realised that? Why else would it be strained?

I am so happy for you and your DH, this will be a great adventure. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

@mrstea83:  

Yeah I don’t get why they would try to guilt you, it is obvious you care and aren;t chosing to leave.

I did move a few hours away myself a few years ago to a large city from a small town. My family were worried for me but thought it was a great opportunity. We aren’t as close as you sound with your family though and we are British so maybe that is why. 😉

Don’t let it get you down. You are being really courageous and handling so many things at once with DH’s promotion, the move, sorting your huse, TTC etc. Hell, I’m proud of you and I don’t even know you. I’m sure they are too even if they are being a bit crappy right now. x

 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrstea83:  When I was married to my first husband, he was transferred every year on February 1st. Trust me, moving is only as stressful as you choose to let it be.

You can dwell on the stress or you can look at it from a  positive point of view. You will meet new people, create new friendships, get to know a whole new area, use your new home as a base for day trips that you would never have taken from your current location.

As far as the parents are concerned, just stop allowing their separation anxiety to affect you. It is totally normal for young people to have to move for their jobs and for advancement in those jobs. You will still be within a 3 hr drive -easily done in a day trip. I used to drive that far for soccer tournaments all the time, there and back in the same day.

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