Post # 1
So, my husband and I did not have any money to go on a honeymoon after our wedding last October. We need a vacation! I’ve been casually browsing honeymoon resorts and I’m getting really disheartened. Some resorts want proof of marraige no longer than 30 days since the wedding. I think this is really unfair! Sorry we coudn’t afford a fairytale get-away after planning and playing for an entire wedding ourselves on a self-employed budget!
We want the full honeymoon experience! Flowers in the room, champagne, candle-lit dinners, room service….
I don’t understand why a resort would turn down a couple who got married more than 30 days before booking a honeymoon.
Post # 3
Which places have you contacted?
Post # 4
So ridiculous. And discriminatory. I don’t think I’d want to go to a place that made rules that excludes the “type” of people who can’t afford to take a honeymoon right away. But if you really have your heart set on one of these places, try speaking to a manager. There may very well be exceptions to their “rules.”
Post # 5
Have you contacted any of these places directly and explained the situation?
Hopefully someone will be more understanding in person, especially if you say you want the “full honeymoon experience,” which translates to $$$ for some places. 😛
Post # 6
It’s pretty common with a lot of big name chains because they obviously don’t want you to keep doing this. It’s no different to saying it’s your birthday at a restaurant when it’s really not just to get a free dessert.
I would call them directly, explain the situation and see if there’s anything they are willing to do. Good luck!
Post # 7
I think places only ask for proof of marriage for the free honyemoon stuff. Most places have romantic packages that you can purchase for $100 or so for the champagne and flower petals, etc.
I don’t think it’s the end of the world and it’s definitely not discriminatory. It’s just their policies.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s discriminatory. They have to do it to protect themselves otherwise people would take advantage. People would claim it’s their HM all the time.
I would suggest calling up the places you are interested and explain your situation. Maybe they’ll give you a larger window. Or you can try a travel agent. Even if they can’t get you a honeymoon special, they’ll probably be able to get something equivalent.
Post # 9
How many expensive resort honeymoon type vacations are newlywed couples likely to take within that first year that this is really such an issue? Wouldn’t a six month window be a little more fair? Also, maybe I misunderstood, but the OP describes these places as *honeymoon resorts*, so I am imagining the kind of places that are dedicated to honeymoon couples only, not necessarily a resort that is running a promotion for honeymooners who happen to book the month of their wedding.
Either way, I would call and see if they will make an exception for you. The key is to be unfailingly polite, but persistent. Don’t be discouraged if you are told it’s their policy and nothing they can do. Keep asking to speak to higher ups.
Post # 10
The restaurant/free birthday dessert is a great analogy. Like another PP said, it’s for the resorts to protect themselves. Some resorts have very extensive honeymoon packages like spa treatments, bottle of sparkling wine, dinner on the beach, etc. that cost them significantly more than a fruit plate and bouquet of fresh flowers. You can always contact the resort and explain your situation to see if they’d make an exception to the rule for you. The worst they can so is “no,” so it’s worth inquiring. Also, asking kindly will get you more kindness and possibly help than being confrontational. Keep a smile on your face, as they can “hear” the smile through the phone. Good luck and bon voyage!
Post # 11
If I am reading the OP correctly, and it occurs to me that maybe I’m not, the resort isn’t just saying no honeymoon discount package for you. They are saying you can’t book here at all. A honeymoon is theoretically a once in a lifetime event. If you miss the birthday special at the local restaurant you can always pay regular price or try again next year.
If we’re just talking short term discounts off regular rates, that’s a much different story.