Proof of Marriage for a honeymoon resort?

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Which places have you contacted?

Post # 4
6692 posts
Bee Keeper

So ridiculous.  And discriminatory.   I don’t think I’d want to go to a place that made rules that excludes the “type” of people who can’t afford to take a honeymoon right away.  But if you really have your heart set on one of these places,  try speaking to a manager.  There may very well be exceptions to their “rules.” 

Post # 5
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Have you contacted any of these places directly and explained the situation?

Hopefully someone will be more understanding in person, especially if you say you want the “full honeymoon experience,” which translates to $$$ for some places. 😛

Post # 6
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It’s pretty common with a lot of big name chains because they obviously don’t want you to keep doing this. It’s no different to saying it’s your birthday at a restaurant when it’s really not just to get a free dessert.

I would call them directly, explain the situation and see if there’s anything they are willing to do. Good luck!

Post # 7
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think places only ask for proof of marriage for the free honyemoon stuff. Most places have romantic packages that you can purchase for $100 or so for the champagne and flower petals, etc.

I don’t think it’s the end of the world and it’s definitely not discriminatory.  It’s just their policies.



Post # 8
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s discriminatory.  They have to do it to protect themselves otherwise people would take advantage.  People would claim it’s their HM all the time.

I would suggest calling up the places you are interested and explain your situation.  Maybe they’ll give you a larger window.  Or you can try a travel agent.  Even if they can’t get you a honeymoon special, they’ll probably be able to get something equivalent. 

Post # 9
6692 posts
Bee Keeper

How many expensive resort honeymoon type vacations are newlywed couples  likely to take within that first  year that this is really such an issue?  Wouldn’t a six month window be a little more fair?   Also, maybe I misunderstood, but the OP describes these places as  *honeymoon resorts*,  so I am imagining the kind of places that are dedicated to honeymoon couples only, not necessarily a resort  that is running a promotion for honeymooners who happen to book the month of their wedding.   

Either way, I would call and see if they will make an exception for you. The key  is to be unfailingly polite, but persistent.   Don’t be discouraged  if you are told it’s their policy and nothing they can do.   Keep asking to speak to higher ups.

Post # 10
746 posts
Busy bee

The restaurant/free birthday dessert is a great analogy. Like another PP said, it’s for the resorts to protect themselves. Some resorts have very extensive honeymoon packages like spa treatments, bottle of sparkling wine, dinner on the beach, etc. that cost them significantly more than a fruit plate and bouquet of fresh flowers. You can always contact the resort and explain your situation to see if they’d make an exception to the rule for you. The worst they can so is “no,” so it’s worth inquiring. Also, asking kindly will get you more kindness and possibly help than being confrontational. Keep a smile on your face, as they can “hear” the smile through the phone. Good luck and bon voyage!

Post # 11
6692 posts
Bee Keeper

 If I am reading the OP correctly, and it occurs to me that maybe I’m not, the resort isn’t  just saying no honeymoon discount package for you.  They are saying you can’t book here at all.    A honeymoon is theoretically a once in a lifetime event.  If you miss the birthday special at the local restaurant you can always pay regular price or try again next year. 

If we’re just talking short term  discounts off regular  rates, that’s a much different story. 

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