(Closed) Proper baby gift etiquette

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

if there’s no shower and you’re going to get them a “smaller” gift I’d probably just bring it whenever you see the baby for the first time.  Especially if it’s larger size clothing, or a case of diapers or something they won’t need prior, and probably aren’t super picky about.

If you were getting a larger ticket item, such as a stroller or crib that they’d want beforehand, and parents often put a fair bit of thought into selecting I’d speak to them directly and discuss which one they want.

Post # 4
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If she’s still a few months from her due date, it’s possible that shower invitations just haven’t gone out yet. She very well may be registered somewhere. Have you tried searching online?

You can try punching her name in here: http://registry.thebump.com/ and seeing if anything comes up.

As someone who is expecting a baby in just a few weeks, I can tell you I appreciate the small, practical things the most: wipes, diapers (we’re doing cloth but plan to use disposables for the first couple of weeks), burp cloths, bibs, simple onesies, bath items like lotion and baby wash/shampoo. You could make a nice care package of those things if you’re really at a loss for what to get. Or, honestly? A gift card to Babies R Us or Target would also be great.

As for the best time to give the gift, I’m not entirely sure if she really doesn’t end up having a shower. I know I’d prefer to receive gifts on the earlier side so anything that needs washing and putting away can be taken care of.

Also, I’m a bit concerned that you say money is a “weird topic” between you and your husband. This is something you two need to discuss and agree on, I wouldn’t go buying gifts for his family behind his back. Find out what he thinks is appropriate and go from there.

Post # 5
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

A colleague admitted to me that when she was given a gift of diapers she thought to herself “what a crap present” (understandably!), but after she’d had the baby it became the gift she was the most thankful for.  Maybe you could put together a small package of useful items like q-tips, baby wipes, safety pins etc. Those sort of gifts show a lot of thought and love.  That way it’s not a “big” present but still a substantial offering. Hope I am making sense!

Post # 7
1760 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@beenie62:  I would suggest asking around about a baby shower. Chances are they are having one if it is their first child. My shower is 1 month before my due date, so maybe invites haven’t gone out yet. Maybe ask mil what SIL and BIL will need? Personally I would bring a smaller gift closer to their due date or after the baby is here. If you don’t have a ton of money what about ordering them take out once a week for a few week, or bringing them dinners? Are you crafty? Try making a few onesies or a blanket? 

Post # 8
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

I think that any gift for a new baby will be welcomed, and I’m not sure what you really mean about it being ‘appropriate’ or not. The gift? The giving of any gift at all?

Why not ask your Mother-In-Law what she’s gotten for them and what she knows they need? I’m going to be a new Grandmother in September, and I’ve already bought a ton of gifts for the baby but have given her only about a dozen things so far. The rest will be for her shower, and for when I need to pull out something for a ‘just because’ moment. lol

Post # 9
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ItWasntMe:  +1  


Ask your Mother-In-Law if they are having a shower or if she knows what they would like.              

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