Proper funeral attire?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@lavenderstone:  Honestly I would just go buy a pair of dark pants that fit whatever size you’re in now and wear them with the white shirt. And maybe a dark cardigan over the white shirt. When my cousin died a few years ago I had no dress clothes at all, so I just had to go find whatever I could (which is not easy in plus size) that looked decent and respectful. I completely get the breastfeeding Mom issue, been there, totally with you, but pink? No, I can’t say that would go over too well.

Post # 4
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

About a year ago FI’s grandmother passed away, I worse plain black pants and subtle patterned top with a black cardigan over it. FSIL who was breastfeeding at the time wore just a plain black dress over black leggings and had a black cardigan on too. I would just look for something simple and inexpensive to buy along these lines.

Post # 5
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Anything dark, such as navy or black. I definitely wouldn’t wear salmon. I would find ten minutes to run into a store you know and buy a pair of black dress pants to wear with an existing dark sweater or top you own. 

I am sorry for your loss. 

Post # 6
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@lavenderstone: I’m so sorry for your loss. I think this would be an appropriate time to buy something for this sad occasion. I had a situation where I didn’t have anything appropriate to wear when my FI’s grandmother passed away so I bought a cheap pant suit from the juniors department at Macy’s. New York and Company has so many coupons online that you could use to get 40% off your purchase and their merchandise is nice quality. I would get some black slacks and a button up to make breast feeding easier. 

Post # 7
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You could find a cute black wrap dress at Target for $30 or so I would think.

Post # 8
15 posts

@lavenderstone:  I think the salmon dress could be okay, depending what your grandfather/family is like. If you consider a funeral to be more like a celebration of his life, then I think it’s a great choice. 🙂 Besides, your presence is what matters. But I’ve never been to a funeral, so maybe some other bees can give input. 

Post # 9
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Gem_Fem:  +1. Especially if teamed with a darker jacket, coat or cardigain perhaps. And again only depending on what you think your faimily would like. I have unfortunatly been to several funerals recently. There was very little black at any of them, at one we were requested to wear bright colours and odd socks as that is what the family felt our friend would have wanted to see. Maybe speak to some family members and check what they think would be preferable.

Post # 10
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not everyoe in my family comes dressed in black. In fact, one family (we have… a lot of funerals for some reason) usually comes in brighter colors. We don’t judge.

I would wear the khaki skirt with a black shirt (doesn’t need to be a button down, can be a more casual one that’s easy to feed with), black cardigan and black tights – I think that would be just fine.

[ETA] The salmon dress would be OK, too – again, with a black cardigan and black tights, it will still be appropriate.

Post # 11
1689 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sorry for your loss.

I’ve (unfortunately) been to a lot of funerals in the past year or so and haven’t seen much black. 

People care more that you showed up rather than what you are wearing.  Your salmon dress, a black jacket, and comfortable shoes will be fine. 

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