Post # 1
I’m looking for a bit of reassurance or advice!
I’m 26 and have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I know without a doubt I want to marry him some day, and we talk about it often.
in June we started looking at rings together and I was soooooo excited! Now problem is, I’ve recently found the ring (it’s amazing!!)….. we are visiting my parents for new years, and I have a feeling from various sources that he is going to propose in the next week. I’m suddenly terrified, anxious, finding reasons why it’s not the right time or I’m still too young etc…! Kind of crazy I know (also considering we’re both done with graduate school and in secure employment).
What’s wrong with me?!! Is this normal as it’s suddenly becoming real after so long, or should I bring this up with him?
Any help appreciated!!
Post # 3
@bellarex: You are so normal. Marriage is a HUGE life change, and people tend to resist change, even the good kind. When it happens you might have to take baby steps before you start to feel comfortable.
I feel a bit of the same way, even though I will be having an elopement-style wedding. It still means life is turning a new page and the previous parts of the book are over.
I hope you have fun with the process! 🙂
Post # 4
TOTALLY normal! I felt the same way when I knew he had the ring.. if you feel you need to talk about it go for it. I tell my Fiance everything and I told him I was feeling nervous and he told me he understood etc etc.
Its a big step! As long as you know he’s still the one don’t worry about a little nerves 🙂
Post # 5
I think that you are just getting nervous because you know that it is coming. Marriage is a big step and it is normal to get cold feet.
I don’t think that it is any reason though to tell him to put off the engagement if it does happen. A wedding doesn’t happen overnight. So you can always go with a longer engagement.
Post # 6
Is it within your personality to kind of freak out when you’re going through a big life change? If so, then I think it’s normal. I’ve certainly had the same feelings and typically do when ever I have to make big decisions like this. Even when I moved into my current appartment I was so excited to sign the lease, then for the next week I was absolutely sure that it was the wrong decision. I’m just a bit scared of change.