Post # 1
Hello ladies, I have a friend doing his best to plan the perfect proposal to his wonderful and amazing girlfriend 8 months from now. This website has been incredibly helpful in my first order of buisness, which was getting the ball rolling on the ring. If you’re interested in that go here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/man-seeking-engagement-ring-advice
His next step is planning the actual proposal. So the first thing he wanted to do is to get a womans perspective on his basic idea, and especially from those who are currently dealing with LDRs, as for a while they’re going to be in one.
Starting in May he’s only going to see his girlfriend once until August. Then after a week in August he’s going to be a missionary in another country and he wont see her until the end of December where they are going to meet up and spend 2 weeks going to Rome, and Paris (each of their respective dream European destinations). After that he wont see her again until July of 2012… 🙁
So his basic idea when he resolved that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her, was/is to propose to her in either Rome or Paris (which he hasn’t decided yet). His first question is, How would you feel if your significant other proposed to you (hopefully the answer being yes) and you then wouldn’t see him in person for 6 months? Would that make things harder, easier, no difference?
He really wants to make this an incredibly special moment, and those places seem to fit the bill, but before he really dives into planning for over there, he wanted to make sure thats not a bad idea
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2011 - OMOS Church ceremony/Sunnehanna Country Club reception
Mr. Snow Cone proposed while we were still doing our LDR thing. Granted, we only had about 2 months left before we would be in the same city, so it’s not an exact parallel to your situation. It’s hard to put into words, but there’s this sense of calm, happiness, and peace that descends upon you after a proposal. Sure, there are minor stressors like a loud neighbor, traffic, bad weather, etc. But what’s good in life seems better and what’s bad in life seems not that bad. I think that your gf would not have any large problem with your proposing while still in a LDR. Think of it this way: if you propose while LD, then she has such an overwhelmingly awesome reason to be excited for your return. If you don’t propose and wait, she has to wait for that much longer before knowing EXACTLY how you feel about her and what you expect your future together to be. That’s just my two-cents on the matter. It sounds like you have some really great ideas bouncing around your noggin, my friend!
Post # 4
definitely makes it easy because she won’t doubt your commitment to her.
Post # 5
Well, I am sitting here hoping this is what is going to happen between me and my boyfriend in September. I think that it would really show how committed you are to the relationship, and that you love her so much. I think she would love it, I know I would.
Post # 6
My FI proposed on a break, he left again 3 days after and while it sucked he left and we didn’t get to be engaged together in the same place and celebrate together it in no way was worse than any other proposal. As others said it made the LDR easier in some ways because you could see the light at the end of the tunnel. I think it sounds like a very romantic proposal! I love the idea and I say go for it!
Post # 7
my FH proposed to me about 10 months into our LDR (we’d been dating for 3 years) and we have another year or 2 until we’ll be together again (getting married and continuing being long distance). needless to say, i did say yes – completely surprised! i don’t think there’s been much of a difference. guys generally don’t give much input in the planning so while it’s harder to get his perspective when he doesn’t know what half the things i’m talking about are, it’s not bad at all!
Post # 8
I think your girlfriend will truly appreciate the commitment you are making to her. This doesn’t change whether you are in a LDR or not. And most importantly, you have a timeframe. I feel is very important and it gives the two of you a goal to be looking forward to!
I am in a LDR, too, and most likely the proposal will happen during his next visit. We’re currently looking at another year before we can be together. I am on the one hand really calm about this and thankful that I can see/plan ahead, on the other hand I think there would be more of a surprise element if visits weren’t so far and few in between.
Proposals come in all shapes and sizes, and your thought of proposing in a very romantic & historic city is definitely sweet! There are sooo many locations to choose from in either city!
Post # 9
Not seeing you for such a long time will certainly be hard. Not seeing your partner for extended periods of time is never easy. But I will agree with the other posters that doing the proposal beore you leave is a great idea because she’ll be left knowing for a fact you have no doubts about your future and want to really start your lives together once you return. It sounds like it will be an amazing proposal. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 10
My fiance and I are in a LDR for the duration of our engagement. He proposed on a weekend visit and it was awesome. I say go for it and propose. Your ideas sound romantic and sweet.