Post # 1
I was hoping to get some advice what to do, i got the engagement ring and now need to make a proposal she could remember. We have tickets for a long weekend getaway in Paris in a month where i was thinking to propose, but then started thinking that maybe this city is not as romantic in real life and it would be quite hard to make plans ahead etc. I was thinking to just wait for the right moment during the trip and get on one knee. (i’ve never been to Paris, so don’t know nothing….)
The other idea i’ve had some time is to propose at a local beach, maybe in the evening… i could maybe play our song on the background and make a heart shape with some flammable liquid on the ground so when i ask her to throw a match on the ground the hear sets on fire. I’ve even been thinking about building a tropical looking beach tent, but what would be my excuse? just a romantic dinner maybe? i think she would suspect.
Anyways i’m torn between two quite different settings and ideas… Paris and spontaneous, or preplanned and evening beach. I live in Scandinavia, so it’s not a tropics here, just regular beaches 🙂 What do you think? This knowing and not being able to share everything with her drives me crazy! :))))
PS. one idea i had was to make this beach proposal one day before leaving to Paris, it happens to be our meeting date number (not a month), and we sometimes celebrate it whatever the month is. Or then again i could do it just randomly and maybe sooner than in a month. I’m just so exited right now cause i got the ring today!!!!!!! Which would be more romantic? I know women like to brag about their proposals… Hehehehee
PS2. i’m also puzzled wether i should get somebody to photograph the event or not. I imagine in Paris it would be quite hard.
This topic was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by jnuz.
This topic was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by jnuz.
Post # 2
I think those both sound like fantastic options. Personally, I love to travel, so I’d pick Paris. I also like the idea of it being a bit spontaneous. That being said, the beach also sounds lovely (though I’d probably avoid contaminating the beach with flamable liquid).
I think the most important thing is to think about how to tell her how much she means to you and how much you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her. The words that come from you will mean way more than the setting in which they’re said.
And, no, I don’t think you need a photographer. But it’s nice to maybe take a picture of the two of you after it happens when you’re all happy and glowy!
Post # 3
My advice would be to do it in a place that is meaningful or special for the two of you. Paris is lovely but she may be expecting it to happen there, so I think it would be really great for you to suprise her and do it beforehand. Then, you can spend the first days of your engagement celebrating in Paris! I’m sure you will be able to enjoy it more, because you won’t be nervous about figuring out where/when to do it.
As for the photos- YES!!! My fiance had our closest friend (his best man) hide when he proposed to me. We were climbing a mountain, the first one we ever hiked together, on Christmas Eve. I didn’t see our friend until after the proposal, so it was really a private moment between the two of us. Those photos are absolutely priceless to me.
Post # 4
jnuz: Both of your ideas are great, but you can’t beat Paris!! As for the photographer, I certainly don’t think it’s a necessity – we didn’t have anyone take pictures and I don’t miss them at all.
Post # 5
vermonster: Yes, that’s what i was thinking that maybe she will be anticipating a proposal in Paris, and i would probably be quite nervous until i finally do it 🙂 I wish i could have done the trip as a suprise, but she know’s where we’re going (it was a birthay gift from me to her).
The other thing is that we don’t have so called “our spot”… the only one is where we first met, it’s one restaurant near our home… (she used to work there on the office side). But we go there quite often to just have a pizza and stuff, so i was thinking maybe it’s too boring or ordinary 🙂
I would have done it during her birthday but didn’t get the ring in time, and now my own birthday is coming.. ugh, so many events during short period of time 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Whatever you do, please do not pour flammable liquid on the ground and then try and light it on fire! It could explode if you put too much liquid. If you got any on you on accident, you would catch fire. That just sounds like a horrible idea. Please please do not do that!
I also have to say that she’s going to remember the proposal regardless of how you do it. A proposal is a really big deal. So I wouldn’t worry about that aspect. As long as you say things from the heart, it’s going to be perfect no matter how you do it.
Paris is a very romantic city and could be a really cool place to propose. However, I personally wanted to tell family the second after it happened. We immediately went to his parents house (where my mom was too) to announce our engagement. It would have been hard to call people internationally if we had been abroad at the time, and I wanted to tell people in person. However, maybe your fiance-to-be isn’t like that and wouldn’t mind waiting to tell people until you return. Just something to think about.
BTW, there are many many beautiful places in Paris to propose. You could do it at the top of the Eiffel Tower or the top of the Arc de Triomphe, which has an excellent view of the Eiffel Tower. There are tons of beautiful parks: jardin des tuileries, jardin du luxembourg, etc. If she really loves a specific piece of art (like Monet’s waterlilies), you could go to the museum and propose there in front of the artwork. There are also a couple love lock bridges in Paris. You could propose and then put a love lock on the bridge and toss the key into the river. Your options are limitless.
The beach idea sounds a lot more intimate and private. If that’s more her thing, then maybe she’d like that more than a grand proposal at the top of the Eiffel Tower. You know your girl better than us. So just pick whatever you think she would enjoy the most. Good luck!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
jnuz: I like the idea of doing it the day before you go to Paris, so it will turn into a engagement celebration trip. That, or the FIRST day you’re in Paris so you can celebrate the rest of the time. If you do propose at home, it’d be sweet to arrange a friend to hide and take photos. But definitely not necessary! I wouldn’t worry about it if you go with Paris.
Post # 8
Christy42213: OKay, maybe you’re right, it’s not the best idea 🙂 Candles would be even more beautiful but then she also might suspect it…Hmmm, i have to think about that little bit more i guess.
Post # 9
I vote the beach all the way!! do it right before paris and you can celebrate on our vacation!
Post # 10
jnuz: i vote do it on YOUR birthday! she will never expect that and you can enjoy your gifts from her and then be like oh wait i got you something!
Post # 11
I would do the proposal at the local beach. I’m not sure how sentimental the two of you are.. but if it’s a local place, you can always go back, whenever you wanted – whether it be for anniversaries or just a romantic night. Paris I’m assuming is further away, so it’s a lot more difficult to go back to the exact spot to reminisce.
Post # 12
jnuz: If you decide to do Paris there are a lot of great places to propose! Some obvious ones: in a restaurant, on the Eiffel Tower (that would be AMAZING and you could ask someone to take your picture together because tourists are doing that all the time up there and then get down on one knee and propose!)
Post # 13
MrsGatito: Yes, Paris is 4 hours flight away on the other side of Europe…. I’m also starting to lean towards the idea to pop the question before the trip. She would enjoy the trip more and feel different from the start and i could relax my mind. Not sure about my birthday idea…. although quite intriguing, because it’s already on monday and i just wish i could give her the ring already today 😀
Post # 14
nawella: i was also considering that spot and she’s been telling me that she definately wants us to go up there, but there’s two problems… maybe on top of Eiffel tower is too cheesy? And also i’m really afraid of hights, add the proposal tension to that and i think i won’t make it.
Post # 15
The logistics of a local proposal are so much easier. Paris is hot in June, crawling with tourists and vendors, full of rats like all big cities, you can’t sit on the grass, overpriced, and I’ve had waiters correct my Canadian French accent.
If you do pick Paris, you might consider on the plane ride there (depending on their airline, some of those Ryanair planes are quite foul). The Eiffel Tower is very obvious and she’ll expect it (Plus, the Eiffel Tower restaurant is ridiculously expensive, you won’t get a shot of the structure if you propose at the top, and while the view from the top of the stairs of the Trocadero at night is lovely- you’ll be interrupted every 5 minutes by vendors trying to sell you roses and trinkets).
I suggest a picnic on the banks of the Seine, or if your girlfriend enjoys opera, get her tickets at the Palais Garnier and propose there. That is a beautiful building.