Proposal limbo

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did you pick out your own engagement ring?
    Yes, I went to the jewelers with my partner and we picked it together : (38 votes)
    70 %
    No, the proposal was a total suprise : (16 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    You are in the exact position I am in … It’s because we decided to to it the untraditional way LOL but oh well … I have changed my wedding date a million times and now for sure I am getting Married August 2nd 2014 in the Dominican Republic… Just like you everyone knows everyone is excited photographer booked , first fitting June 5th…. but FI is adament about “proposing” to me and wants to make it special …. he was engaged before I was married before and his thing to me is this is the LAST time hes doing this (same for me Lol) so he wants it right … hang in there you’re not alone and it will happen .

    Post # 3
    Member
    1367 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We picked out our rings, got the marriage license and told DH’s parents we were getting married when we were visiting them in New Zealand, but DH refused to propose until he had asked my parents (father) in person.  We didn’t see them until 2 weeks later (in Canada.)  And due to immigration reasons we had to have a civil ceremony in NYC the week after that. 

    So my now DH actually proposed at New York City Hall in front of the officiant right before we were legally married.  Our parents flew in and were there, they thought it was hilarious.  We had a proper reception and said vows in front of our friends and extended family later, but we joke that we had the shortest “official” engagement ever.

    Post # 4
    Member
    9533 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t really fit into either catagory. My ring is an heirloom ring that my husband got made by combining the center stone of my great-grandmother’s e-ring and the setting of his grandmother’s e-ring. We went to a jewler to talk about possibilities of combining them while we were talking about the possibility of getting married. But I didn’t actually see my ring until he proposed and that’s when we told everyone and started wedding planning. Engagements are different for everyone and it sounds like you guys have just divided it up and done it in a non-traditional order. But it sounds like it’s working for you and I think it’s cool that you get this period of being excited about the upcoming proposal!  

    Post # 5
    Member
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I was in this boat – we didn’t get a ring until after I met his parents. However, everyone knew we were getting married, we were booking things, I’d bought a dress already, etc. If you’ve agreed you’re getting married, you’re engaged, but I know how weird that is! I thought vendors etc would be weird about it, but apparently they see it all the time.

    Post # 6
    Member
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Brimuz1992:  you and I are in the same boat! And its driving me a bit nuts…I have to make a mental note to stop nagging him about it. All I know is that it will happen when the weather gets warmer (he apparently has it all planned out and thats as much of a hint that he’ll give me) but the wait is killing me.

    Post # 7
    Member
    222 posts
    Helper bee

    There could be worse things in the world. If everthing is planned and set to go, then don’t sweat it. I can see how annoying the waiting part can seem, especially because you’ve already discussed all the details and such…but you’ve already done the hard part. The planning part. You’ll eventually get enganged. Just relax and i’m sure it’ll happen when you least expect it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    222 posts
    Helper bee

    There could be worse things in the world. If everthing is planned and set to go, then don’t sweat it. I can see how annoying the waiting part can seem, especially because you’ve already discussed all the details and such…but you’ve already done the hard part. The planning part. You’ll eventually get enganged. Just relax and i’m sure it’ll happen when you least expect it.

    Post # 10
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    2 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    We have a date as well. But I’m still waiting for the ring. I’ve picked it out but yeah waiting for the ring and the proposal.

    Post # 11
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I am in that situation too. We have everything set and booked even – invites are out and RSVPs are coming back, dresses ordered (mine, bridesmaids, etc) and he has asked my parents’ blessing and so really, all that remains is the proposal! I did get to choose my own ring so I have seen it but have no idea where it is to go visit it from time to time… ha! While it sounds completely backwards, and perhaps it is, the reasoning made sense (long story) and he really wants to make sure that he proposes “properly” (I don’t think a ring is a necessary part of a proposal, he does) and that it is special. While I wish it were on my hand right now, who am I to say, “Oh no.. don’t do something extremely special just for me!”

    All I know is that it will happen sometime in the next few months. He keeps reminding me that I will wear it for the rest of my life so a couple months won’t hurt me. I am sure at the end of this I’ll be super excited because it will all be worth it. 🙂

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