Post # 1
I know I’ve posted about my proposal before but I really need to vent/ reassurance right now
So it seems like the proposal will happen near or around the 13th of Feburary. Ladies, Im nervous, and I mean really really nervous
I have this thing that when I get this nervous, I get nausous. Its bad, I have really bad anxiety sometimes (imagine what I was like during finals!) and this is huge. I love my SO, Im going to say yes, but Im so nervous about when its going to happen that Im afraid I might pass out- honestly!
Has anyone here been so nervous that they dropped the ring, or possibly felt sick during the proposal? How did you keep it together?
Im not 100% about the proposal yet (it could just all be clever bait and switch!) but I think its going to happen…so lets say….75%?
I know this is a mute point if it doesnt happen soon, but Im pretty sure Im going to be very very nervous the more time it takes between now and the proposal.
Ahhhh the insanity of the waiting game is winning over! 🙂 I needs me some input!
Post # 4
Haha. Well. I got really nervous every time another month anniversary passed. And it just NEVER seemed to happen. I know why it took him longer than he had originally planned. (my grandmother had a stroke and the later passed and he didn’t want to be, as he said it, “insensitive to the situation”)
But when he proposed it was a very calm and relaxed situation so there was no dropping of the ring or passing out!
Post # 5
@crh1729: sorry for your loss. Thanks for replying
No, Im pretty sure I will have a mini freak out- Im the kind of person with an excess amount of energy- probably should avoid coffee that day actually…
I just dont think I will hold it together. Always, when I want to the most, I cant! This time I really want to!
Post # 6
Xanax and a glass of wine. hahaha! Just kidding.. kind of.
I have anxiety too and I have a prescription although I don’t have to use it very often.
The thing that helps me most is to just BREATHE. Really concentrate on your breath. Make it the focus of your mind. Make it ALL you think about. Force all other thoughts out and try to relax. Just concentrate on your stomach rising and falling. It always helps me.
But you have to get in the mindset to do it and remember — all the freaking out is in your head so if you can control your thoughts and concentrate on relaxing it will pass quickly!
Post # 7
I might take you up on the Xanax actually
I see, thats a very Zen technique. I will have to try that! Though honestly, with my energy level I dunno if the breathing would help…unless you havent noticed Im very excitable!
now I will stop using exclamation marks 😛
I think its just the idea that its so close…and with that comes the closeness of planning and family drama and the other things like money and what not…
When I think about all that put together with school and my future I kinda freak out
Post # 8
Deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth!!!!
Just breathe…. you’ll be more in control than you anticipate….
the moment will be amazing and you’ll be on such a great high from
the proposal you wont need any xanax!
Post # 9
Haha–I don’t know why but I got nervous just reading this!
The one time I thought my Boyfriend or Best Friend was going to propose (don’t know why I did–I was way wrong!) I got REALLY nervous. I didn’t even have a day that I thought he was going to propose or anything I just got nervous/butterflies just thinking about it!
I take deep breaths when I’m nervous about something (like turbulance!), but if you’re trying to calm yourself ahead of time maybe meditation will help. Picture yourself being excited but NOT nervous when he proposes.
Good luck! And if you do faint it’ll make a heck of a story!
Post # 10
My SO’s sister just got engaged yesterday and she said she felt very sick to the stomach when it happened! She was okay though. 🙂
Congrats on the impending engagement!
Post # 11
@Mrs.Firefly1: Thank you! indeed the concensus seems to be to remember to breathe! Lol I will definitely do that!
@Taylor4: hahah my nervousness is contagious! 😀 yeah I guess if I faint that’ll keep the great grandkids entertained for several years!
@DeathByDesign: Awww! Im glad she was ok, and congrats from me to her on the engagement!
Thanks alot ladies. Wonderful advice from the waiting boards yet again…now I just wonder what the heck Im gonna wear!
I really would not like to look like a dork if this happens in public!
Post # 12
also my SO is currently being very silly and awesome and recording and sending me sound clips of his sweet nothings via Windows live lol!
yeah this is what we do on our off days lol.
Post # 13
My husband completely surprised me with the proposal, even though I knew he had the ring. I honestly thought it would be MONTHS down the line. I also tend to get nervous and nauseous, especially when I get caught off-guard like that, so I sympathize with you. If it’s any consolation, the nausea I might have felt in any other surprise circumstance (being called on by a professor, a surprise party, etc) was completely clouded by joy when he got down on one knee. To be honest, I was so elated that I don’t even fully remember the words of his proposal (my memory of it is a mish-mash of “love you more every day…spend my life with you…make me so happy…”)
The best advice I can give you is something my mother calls “square breathing”, which has rescued me (and my most recent meals) so many times. If you find yourself in a situation where you’re suspecting he might pop the question, try to relax and do the following: Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds, wait for 4 seconds, and repeat as long as you need to. It always calms me down and I hope it might do the same for you. Good luck!
Post # 14
@LadyJDAG: Wow that sounds just like what Im expecting lol. Im totally going to take your advice, thank you! 🙂
Im also going to avoid scary food like cheese that day….just in case….
Post # 15
Ok – if you think it’ll be during a dinner out, get something clear and fizzy to drink – soda water, mineral water, clear lemon-lime drinks, tonic water – this can help with nausea and settle your stomach. Eat light and simple – no spicy curry/enchiladas/sushi rolls! If your stomach can handle alchohol, something simple (no tequila :P) might help with your nerves, but it can also cause excess acid, so be sparing.
Just remember this – you only have ONE line to remember, “Yes!” Let him put the ring on you if you’re worried about dropping it. Holding out your hand should be simple enough for him to read. (PS, in case he’s not able to propose that night – don’t hold out your hand unless you actually see a ring 😛 )
He’s got the hard part, what with no stunt double to do the one-knee bend (very dangerous) and he has more to remember to say, even if he keeps it simple, it’s 3 more words than you have to worry about.
Do some yoga, it’ll relax you – if you don’t have any classes nearby or DVD, just look on youtube. Or go for a walk/jog and get out all that restless energy 🙂
I don’t think you need to worry so much, if you can help it. He’s got the hard part in this – try to make it easy on him 🙂 Try to sit back and enjoy it, kinda like watching a kid sister in a school play – you can be nervous, but you’re not the one with the big responsibility.
Post # 16
My boyfriend already told me he’s going to propose on the 13th when we go on a small trip one state over for dinner and site seeing… I’m nervous too even though I know it’s coming, I’m super scared he’s gonna do it in the restaurant and I don’t want 200 strangers starring at me for an hour… If I faint I’m sure it’s gonna be a huge scene but it is a possibility. Good luck to you =) I hope you can relax enough to enjoy the moment… and I’m gonna try and have 3 or 4 drinks so I have a little buzz to relax and enjoy mine.