Post # 1
Hello ladies as my name suggest I am a guy but I hope you won’t hold that against me. I’m working on planning my proposal, and thought that I should have female input on my ideas. If you’ll have me that is.
So the situation is as such. I’m going to be spending 9 months in Ireland starting in august to do community and youth outreach work. She is going to be doing a 10 month stint in Americorps while I am away. During the December we each have 2 weeks off for the holidays, and they happen to line up very nicely, so she’s going to fly to Europe and meet up with me. We each chose a city to visit. I chose Rome, and she chose Paris. We’re both devout Catholics so we’re going to Rome first to spend through Christmas day there. Then the rest of the time will be in Paris
We’re currently in a LDR and I’ll only get to see her twice between now and August, and then 4 months till Christmas, then 6 months after until we see eachother again.
So I’m planning to propose to her on the break, but I’m not sure where exactly. Rome is important to me and to our faith, but Paris is the city she picked I don’t know whether it would be better to ask her at the beginning of the trip so that we could spend the whole break enjoying it (if she says yes), or have everything build up to that special moment… What do yall think?
Post # 3
personally i think it would be better to propose at the beginning of the trip. Not only will you be abl to relax, but you’ll have the whole time to enjoy being engaged. This is also good if you think she might suspect anything… you don’t want her to be feeling impatient.
Post # 4
Oh my goodness that will be lovely! From personal experience, my now husband took me on a vacation to propose to me but didn’t do it until the LAST day! I was happy to be engaged, but would have liked to have spent more time relaxing versus waiting for him to ask and trying to look my best all the time so that when he did ask I didn’t look awful!
I know it’s a surprise for her but I’d do it earlier in the vacation rather than later.
Post # 5
I would do it earlier as well, so that you can enjoy the newly engaged excitement for the rest of your time together.
Really though I’m sure that whatever you decide will be perfect – if you’re thoughtful enough to come here asking for opinions, my guess is you’ll spend tons of time planning a lovely proposal. Good luck 🙂
Post # 6
@shyguy3712: I think you should do it in the airport as soon as she gets off the plane 🙂
Post # 7
If you was proposing to me, i think it would feel more romantic in Rome….
Post # 8
Definitely towards the beginning. 🙂 It would be nice if it were before Christmas so you two can spend your first “engaged Christmas” together then. 🙂 So sweet. Then you can celebrate in Paris! Good plan, for sure. Got my approval.
Post # 9
Ok good I was leaning towards Rome, because of all those reasons! Yay! Now does anyone know of a good place in Rome to propose? I was thinking from the top of St. Peters but we would be trying to go there on Christmas day, and wouldn’t want to take away the specialness of having a unique day of the year dedicated to our anniversery. Trevi fountain is pretty crowded… I’ve heard the sunset at Janiculum (giancolo) Hill is pretty spectacular…
Post # 10
@shyguy3712: It depends on your girlfriend. Is she someone who strives to be very unique? Or is she someone for whom Christmas is an amazingly magical time of year?
Unique = not Christmas day (some ladies think it is cheesy to be proposed to on a holiday. I personally don’t though.)
Magical = Christmas day/Eve
The thing about an engagement is that you will only celebrate that anniversary for a few years, if at all depending on when you set a date for. So I wouldn’t worry too much about it being a unique date.
Is she really looking forward to planning the wedding? I love proposal stories where the guy gives the girl a stack of wedding magazines after the proposal. I think that this is cute and special and helps to hype up the excitment.
I agree with everyone saying to proposal in the beginning of your trip. I would also tell your hotel when you are planning to do it and see if you can have the room gussied up (wine, chocolate, rose petals etc) for when you come back after she has said yes! 🙂
Post # 11
Thats true about it only being a short term anniversery. Hmmm I suppose I could put the top of St. Peters back in the mix
This is the view from the Cupola at the top of St. Peter’s… Its pretty breathtaking
(although could be a bit cramped and crowded…)
Here is the viewfrom Janiculum Hill
This is one a friend of mine who has been to Rome suggested. Its part of a gardens, and has a great view of the sunseting over Rome
Post # 12
Any of these places would be beautiful and romantic, I really don’t think that you can go wrong. Is she more or an architecture person or a nature person? That might help in the garden vs building thought process.
Post # 13
When in Rome!!!! So the rest of your vaca can be spent as an engaged couple!!!!! 🙂
Post # 14
ShyGuy, I agree that you should propose near the beginning of the trip . . . but as someone who was once in an LDR (and is now “in person” thank God!), I can tell you that it sometimes takes a few days to get used to being “together” in person again for lots of couples . . . so I would wait until you’d had at least some time to catch up and feel all “in person connected” if you know what i mean.
With my SO, when we were on Skype, we *felt* close . .. BUT . . . when we were back in person, even though we felt so close on Skype, it still took a couple of days to feel back in the swing of things of being in person when we’d been apart for 5 or 6 months (!) at a time. So, my opinion is that you should give her just a bit of time to enjoy being in your presence for a while before you pop the question. 🙂
I wish you the best!!
Post # 15
Oh . . . and I agree that you should do it in Rome!! Have you been there before? One lovely spot is at the bottom of the Spanish Steps (where there is a beautiful fountain) . . . *sigh* sooo romantic!!
Post # 16
Oh, i just have a thought! What if you do it at the Trevi Fountain? You could get her to close her eyes, make a wish and throw the coin over her shoulder. Once she has her eyes closed, you go down on one knee!
But really, all of the places you suggested are just beautiful and she is going to be thrilled no matter where you decide.