Proposal ready.. Ring got delayed!

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: What should I do?
    Reschedule the entire proposal? : (7 votes)
    24 %
    continue with proposal with earring and picture of ring? : (22 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
    454 posts
    Helper bee

    God I hope my ring gets to me in time! I’m proposing in 6 weeks!

    Is there a way you can get a temporary ring (given that her ring size is held in stock) and clearly explain to her that this ring is not her “real” ring?I would hate that her family and the plan would be ruined.

    Or you can propose to her without a ring, and just ask. I don’t think that is too bad, I mean I don’t think she won’t hold it against you if you explain the jewelers fault!

    You could give her the earrings as her proposal gift, Not sure how she would take this, but she got free earrings!

    Post # 4
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Continue with the proposal. Wow, I sure hope she likes big surprises… that is a massive proposal you have planned!!

    Free 2.5 ct diamond earrings as a consolation? How much did the ring cost?! That’s quite significant… I’d look into that if it’s actually legit.


    Post # 5
    774 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @StarsFallingDown:  I’d continue with the proposal and have a stand-in ring. 

    Post # 6
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Hi @StarsFallingDown:  I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

    Ooooh this one is hard.

    Every girl who’s waiting is going crazy wondering will happen over the Christmas Holidays, and if it doesn’t she cannot help but be a little disappointed / depressed even for some women who hang their hearts on such things.

    As you seem determined to do something rather special / splashy to mark the occasion, I’d check to see if you can reschedule at this late of date or not

    For the record…

    A Proposal does not require a ring (nice, but not a necessity).  A Proposal requires only 2 elements…

    1 – Someone asks “Proposes” the idea of Marriage (“Will you marry me” or not), and

    2 – Someone replies YES

    That is it, that is all.

    So if you want to go ahead with the elaborate Celebration sans ring you could… but I’m thinking with the Cake, Photographer and Videographer lined up you might want to postpone / wait if you can for when The Ring is actually here

    Only you know your girl

    I’d be quite pleased with the earrings no doubt… but then I tend to a low maintenance gal who LOVES MY MAN AND LITERALLY ANYTHING HE GIVES ME

    Your Girl… guess it might depend on HOW LONG she’s been patiently waiting… and if you made any promises about a timeframe.

    Hope this helps (some)

    PS… If you didn’t have this whole elaborate thing planned… and was sort of a low key guy wanting to propose quietly at home… I’d be soooo onside with the earrings and no-ring.  Maybe tell her as you hand her the box, that you only got half the gift right…

    And when she looks at you half-crazy after opening it, you can explain, “Ya they are EAR-Rings, I got the Ring Part right, the Jeweller didn’t”  Then tell her you LOVE her ears… and it would make you a very happy man if she’d agree with these “rings” to listen to you tell her you LOVE her for the next 70 years or so

    Then explain the screw up.  I bet she’ll be happy… just the same.

    Lol, she’ll have a great Engagement Story, and another piece of Jewellery.

    Hey, if Mr TTR’s “W” Band can be a watch-band… then I certainly think that your Fiancé’s “E” Ring can be Ear-rings.


    Post # 8
    2782 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @StarsFallingDown:  def go through with the proposal.  I’m sure she’ll be understanding- especially if she doesn’t care so much about the ring.  

    I’m sure she’s going to be excited!!

    Post # 9
    1981 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @StarsFallingDown:  My ring almost didn’t arrive in time (they overnighted it and FI was able to pick it up the day we were leaving for Mexico- where we got engaged).  I would see if you can borrow a moissonite or CZ ring from the jeweler as a stand in until her ring arrives.  I don’t think you should postpone it though- at least I wouldn’t want to wait for the ring if I was in her shoes!  9 years is long enough!  Congrats, you obviously put a lot of thought into the proposal and I’m sure she will love it! 

    Post # 10
    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @StarsFallingDown:  I think you should definitely follow through with the proposal! It sounds quite elaborate and I’m sure everyone will understand that the ring is just running a little late. I would propose with the earrings (forget the photo of the ring) and tell your girlfriend that the ring is in production and will be done in January. Then, you can surprise with the actual ring in January! I think it will be more special for her to see her ring for the first time on her finger, rather than in a picture.

    Good luck with the proposal! I hope it happens Christmas day, and please let us know how it goes 🙂

    Post # 11
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would go through with it – bring the promise ring (can you get it resized?) and a picture of the new ring in case she wants to show everything off. 

    Post # 12
    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Do it!!! Just do it, seriously.

    If the earrings aren’t adequate, you could always get her a sterling silver and gemstone stand-in from Ross Simons online (I have a green amethyst with diamond melee halo that I am rocking while my e-ring is being recast. Love it!).

    Post # 13
    1255 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

    I would go for it and propose with the earrings. She’ll be just as excited and the ring is on its way! Congratulations in advance 🙂

    Post # 14
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Go for it!! It sounds magical! Good luck!

    Post # 15
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @StarsFallingDown:  dont reschedule! your proposal sounds incredible and really special, and I think she’d understand that the ring got delayed. Use the earrings and show her a picture of the ring; I think it’ll still go over well,especially after 9 years! Do it! Good luck and Merry Christmas 🙂

    Post # 16
    5482 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Oh doing it with the earrings is a great idea!!! Don’t reschedule!!!

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