- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
Hello Wedding Bees.
Fairly new to the weddingbee boards but wanted to share my proposal story and get an opinion or two because it’s been something that has been bugging me for weeks now.
My fiance and I have been engaged just over 2 months now, we’ve been together almost 6 years. Love that man to death.
Obviously being together that long, proposing, engagement rings, and marriage comes up. We had talked about it ALOT the past few months and he had said next year will be the time as we are trying to save for our own house. So that was the main priority.
During the beginning of June, my mother, whom I am extremely close with, kept dropping hints. At first these were very subtle hints which I brushed them off as nothing but as days went by, these subtle hints weren’t so subtle anymore.
“He’s going to propose to you by your 6 year anniversary” (December)
“He’s going to propose to you by your birthday” (November)
“He’s going to propose to you before your big trip” (September)
I now knew that the conversation my now fiance and I had had weeks prior, was to throw me off, I now knew that he would be proposing before September. I was excited, of course, I have known I wanted to marry this man since the day I met him the first semester of our first year in college but at the same time, I was annoyed and upset, I didn’t want to know anything else, I wanted the proposal to be a surprise. I didn’t want to know anymore and I told my mother this.
The day before the engagement, she tells me “I was just at the shopping center, he found a ring”…and that same day she tells me hints about the ring…
Again, excited because this happening but getting frustrated because I don’t want to know any of this.
The day he proposed, I knew it was coming. He did it infront of my mother, and 10 minutes prior she had told me the ring was in his pocket.
I was so unbelivabley happy to be engaged to this man, but so utterly disappointed at everything that had transpired with my mother. I didn’t mind the subtle hints but why tell me that he has the ring in his pocket? or that you have pictures of the ring on your phone? or that you are going to the mall to look at the ring he wants to buy? She eventually told me that she talked him out of proposing in September on our big trip so he could do it close to home.
I felt and still feel that, a proposal, an engagement, that moment should be one of the happiest moments but, I feel like half of that moment was taken away from me by having someone tell me STEP by STEP everything that was going on.
I haven’t told anyone about these feelings. My fiance has NO idea that I knew EVERYTHING that was going on, it would devastate him.
I’m grateful for him, my ring and the fact that we are engaged and I know there will a million more memories we will make together but, I am having a hard time letting this go.
Thank you in advance… Sorry about the novel length of my post!