Proposal "signs" have they worked for you?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I completely agree with you – it’s like the writers have just thought about what signs men take from moving from dating to make you a girlfriend! 

 

I don’t think there is any real ‘signs’ as such. Maybe he’ll organise a dinner when you weren’t expecting it, or suggest going away somewhere, but proposals can be anything from on your sofa at home to a tropical island. 

 

I knew the day my FI was going to propose from when we woke up in the morning – he put on a (casual) shirt – he never wears shirts. And he said I should wear something nice (when we were about to climb down a cliff to get to the beach). 

 

But unless you’ve actually discussed a proposal in the imminent future I don’t think there are any signs you can tick off a list! 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

When I read the title, I totally thought you meant proposing with some sort of sign, with “Will you Marry Me” or some such painted on it.  Which immediately made me think of this.  Turnos out it’s off topic, but I’ll share it anyway since it’s awesome.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yeah I wish there were some actual signs we could go off of….I feel pretty in the dark most of the time!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

@Duncan:  Hahaha that is awesome, I know this is getting off topic but I saw this the other day and it did make me chuckle….

Post # 9
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Worker bee

But to reply to the message above, I COMPLETELY agree. I’ve read through a lot of those sites, and they really don’t give much helpful advice.  

A few of my friends have gotten engaged/married, and from what I’ve seen and they have told me it happens when you are both ready (financially, emotionally) and that may be different for him than it is for you 😉

One of my best friends was with her FI for 5 years (3 long distance during college, and 2 living together after graduation).  Before they got engaged, two of her best friends got engaged, and they had only been together 2-3 years!  At the time, she was frustrated, especially b/c her now FI at the time was like “Wow, we’ve been together longer, isn’t that crazy?!” and she would be like “UMM yes (in her head thinking, then propose yourself!!)”

For a while she was frustrated, and finally relaxed, knowing it would happen. A few months later he proposed.  I took a trip to see them, and I wanted to know his point of view on it all. I asked him when he started seriosly thinking about it. He said the month before.

Ladies. The month before!! And this guy is a planner, etc.  I was surprised but I think for guys if they have something else going on (in work, life) proposing falls back until things cool down.  When her FI finally found a job and got comfortable, that is when he proposed.

Anyway, hope some of this helps!

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