Post # 1
I see a lot of people on here helped pick out their ring, pushed for a certain time for their FI to propose, and seem to have pretty much planned out the whole thing. I know I was blown away– I wanted nothing to do with the ring and didn’t know he was even close to proposing (I was happy just being a couple lol, and I guess I didn’t realize how long we’d been together). Anyone else like being completely surprised, or is the preference now to basically plan everything?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands
Mine was the furthest thing from a surprise and I was more than okay with it. I’m not a huge fan of surprises. It was still an incredibly special moment.
Post # 4
@FutureM: I knew he wanted to propose but other than that, everything was a complete surprise.
Post # 5
We yalked about marriage since we started dating. I didn’t know when he was going to propose. I actually ruined his original plan!
Post # 6
My preference was to just know what kind of ring I was getting. I’m going to wear it for the rest of my life, and I just want what I want. Besides he told me what he would have gotten me and I would have not liked it at all.
I knew he was going to propose, but I never knew when, so I was pleasantly surprised when he proposed on our five year anniversary. (:
Post # 7
@FutureM: It was a total surprise for me and that was perfect for me.
Post # 8
Surprise proposal then ring shopping together, best of both worlds 🙂
But if he had wanted the ring first, then I would have wanted to do that together first. I’d never expect my guy to be able to pick out a shoe style, a dress or even a shirt for me, and those things I’d wear a lot less frequently. He knows everything about me, but he would never pick out a ring that’d be comfortable on me, because I didn’t even know what that was until I started trying them on.
Post # 9
I love surprises, and I think it was a point of pride for my FI to learn about diamonds and pick a ring on his own. We had been talking about engagement and I knew he was thinking about it, but I had no idea when he would propose or what the ring would look like. I did start to get suspicious around the time of the proposal because I can read him really well, so once it got close I was 98% sure when it was going to happen, but I still count it as a surprise. I tried my best to convince myself that he wasn’t about to propose, haha.
I guess it’s just a personal preference. Some people like to be surprised and give up control in that aspect, and some people like to plan absolutely everything as a team. My FI and I are generally the “plan as a team” type, but when it comes to romantic things we really enjoy surprising each other.
Post # 10
Total surprise and it was aweomse! Except for one little part: he did it right as he came in the front door after being away for 3 weeks therefore he had no idea I had just come home from a party and wasn’t totally sober. Oh well! 🙂 He proposed with a dummy ring and we got my real ring the next day.
Post # 11
When DH and I started talking marriage, we went ring shopping once and it’s a good thing we did bc what he wanted to buy me and what I wanted…not to mention what looked good on my hand…were two very different things. The ring he ultimately picked was a perfect compromise between the two which is part of the reason I love it so much! The proposal, however was a complete surprise! He did it on a random day at my work and it was beautiful and absolutely perfect! But I think it’s a “to each her own” kind of situation. I love surprises, but not everyone does.
Post # 12
We looked at rings the Friday before he proposed (Monday) just so he knew my taste and could start saving (at least that was my impression…). He had me convinced we were still over a year away from getting engaged.
So even though I technically picked out my ring while with him, I HAD NO IDEA. Caught me completely off guard.
Post # 13
@FutureM: I wanted a surprise from him for the longest time. Like I had my “dream proposal” built up in my head and considered myself to be waiting. Then one day, he did something really sweet and it just hit me that I didn’t care anymore. I just wanted to marry him. So, I planned his dream proposal and asked him. He had no idea about any of the details other than that I was planning to ask and was getting him a ring.
Post # 14
@FutureM: I knew after 11 years that we were eventually going to get married but I had no idea when, where, or how he would propose. Before joining WB I had never heard of planned proposals. I’m still kind of put off by the concept but as long as it works for the couple…
Post # 15
@Aquaria: That’s how I feel too! I understand helping with the process, but for some brides it sounds like they essentially took all power away from their FI and pushed him into proposing!
Post # 16
@FutureM: Mine was a huge surprise! We had talked about marriage and he knew the kind of ring I like (mostly because I talk a lot, especially to him and I tell him everything… not because I was pushing for him to propose) but didn’t have a real timeline. It was easily the biggest and best surprise of my life and it was perfect!