(Closed) Propose to him?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would or did you propose to your guy?
    Yes! I think it's a great idea and why not? : (30 votes)
    19 %
    No way! He has to be the one to propose! : (91 votes)
    57 %
    Maybe... I'm not sure... : (25 votes)
    16 %
    Other (please comment) : (13 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee

    Monica proposed to Chandler.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldnt have 🙂 It’s often the guys thing and it’s THEIR moment. Its one of the few things where all praise goes to him lol I guess it would depend on the guy and the couple and how “foward thinking” they are. It wouldnt have been for us though! I think if I had, hubs would have been offended.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m torn… I *think* I would have the guts to, but good thing I didn’t have to find out– HE popped the question first!  Wink

    Post # 6
    Member
    1280 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would want to just get engaged already!! But my SO is really traditional and I know he wants it to be a “thing” so I can’t ruin it for him!

    Post # 7
    Member
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i didnt propose to hubby but when he tried to give me the keys to his house i told him i would not move in with him without a ring and we went shopping soon after so i kinda told him how it was going to be  🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    11328 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I wouldn’t be scared at all, but I wouldn’t do it for 2 reasons. 1) for my guy specifically, i KNOW he’d be upset. this is his “thing” and he’s taking pride in the planning. I can’t steal his thunder. 2) for guys in general, because the society “norm” is for guys to propose, with many guys if they haven’t proposed it means they’re not ready. I wouldn’t want to push.

    Post # 9
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    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I guess it depends on the guy. I know some would feel hurt that they didn’t get the chance to do it.

    Post # 11
    Member
    11328 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @eloping- I kind of did the same thing. My guy wanted to move in together last August (08) and I said that I wouldn’t live with someone before I was engaged and I wasn’t ready to be engaged. I started talking about buying a house in March 09 and he told me he wanted to buy a house together. We agreed to start looking for a house in March 2010, so that was my way of telling him okay– I’m ready and you have a deadline! haha. He hasn’t proposed yet but I know he’s picked a ring!

    Post # 12
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    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I definitely think it works for some people. It wouldn’t have for us. As alot of other posts have mentioned, my fiance would have been really upset if I would have proposed – he needed to have that!

    Also, honestly, I agree with CorgiTales – generally, if a guy hasn’t done it it’s generally (not always) because he’s not ready. I think unless I knew for sure that he was ready, I would be too scared that he just didn’t want to get married yet.

    Post # 13
    Member
    355 posts
    Helper bee

    Like Jyseka, this will be my second marriage and it’s also taken me a long time to be ready again.  But I really want to be wooed this time around — so no, I won’t propose to him.   We have had a lot of discussions on our pace and so it’s not likely to be a total surprise though.

    Post # 14
    Member
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I asked my fiance what his thoughts were on me proposing to him and he said he wouldn’t accept it because proposing is “the man’s job”.  I’m all for it though!

    Post # 15
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    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I guess I am old school because I wouldn’t. It is perfect for your reason but I don’t think I could do it. Social norms are too ingrained in me. 😛

    Post # 16
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    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I agree that it depends on the guy and the situation.  I think my FI would have been hurt if he didn’t get to do it, and also, some guys just procratinate it so much that you need to take the matter in your own hands! lol

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