Proposed to 3 TIMES?! 3?!!!

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’d say he’s your FI, not SO. Congrats on the engagement! The ring doesn’t make it official, you do. I’d have said y’all were engaged after the first proposal. He already made the grand gesture with the surprise flight, what more do you want? I don’t think adding the ring will change much, either. It’s one thing to know it’s coming, but you’re already engaged, it would just be him giving you your ring.


Post # 6
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@ohhbitty:  I think it’s sweet that he is so excited that he can’t even wait for the ring to arrive.  I feel like I would be the same way if I was a guy.  I”m really bad at containing my excitement for things.  You’ll see the beautiful ring he picked out for you and he’ll ask again and it will be exciting because this time you’ll actually be able to share the excitement with your friends and family and feel really engaged. 

Post # 7
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@ohhbitty:  My FI is an ex-Navy Nuke (he didn’t re-enlist, thank goodness!!)  They are good guys, Congrats on your engagement!!

ETA:  Getting your ring will still feel exciting, at least it did for me!  I was more than ready to get engaged and I KNEW it was happening during our vacation in Mexico- I was STILL super surprised and excited!! 


Post # 8
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i got three. the first was drunken, the second was official, the third was when we got my ring. all three were totally different, and i loved all of them.

Post # 10
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - The Lodge at Mackenzie Place

@ohhbitty:  Oh my gosh this sounds familiar!  My dad had to propose 3 times to my mom!  She told him no the first two times because she just wasn’t ready yet, but she knew he was the one and kept telling him to try again.  30 years of marriage they are still going strong!  You never know how you are going to react, you might explode into tears or laughter as soon as you see that ring, OR you might go into a silent happy bliss…either way, 30+ years later you will LOVE that your husband knew he loved enough to keep asking until the time was perfect!

Post # 11
2738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He sounds so sweet!!! Surpring you like that and being spontaneous. You don’t need a ring to promise marriage 😉 

I am a pretty sensitive person, crying easily during movies, etc. At wedding, I always have tears when the couple says their vows. I was really hoping that I wouldn’t start crying at my wedding…and I didn’t! There was some nervousness, and probably a bit of adrenaline, along with a few glasses of wine beforehand, haha! I was calm and collected, which I appreciate, because I wanted it to be meaningful but without crying. 

But when I was thinking of the wedding beforehand, I would tear up. So it’s interesting that I didn’t cry in the actual moment. 

Other anecdote, while I proposed to my bf, I didn’t cry. I thought I might, since when I was thinking of doing the proposal and asking him to marry me, I was tearing up. But again, in the moment, I didn’t cry. 

Anyway, have fun with your third proposal and come back and post your ring!!

Post # 12
43 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

I found out about the ring on accident when the ring insurer called and said it was about the engagement ring policy – what an idiot! I sort of freaked – mostly because I sort of ruined whatever surprise would have come after that and was in trouble, but probably partly because I wasn’t ready to hear about a ring yet even though he’d told me to choose the design I wanted for sure months before.

So, I had plenty of time to speculate how he would do it and when, and besides that I had told him my ideal setting (on top of a mountain). So, when we took a vacation to the Appalachians, I was pretty sure it was gonna happen.

I had always envisioned myself crying and it being this huge romantic thing, but I think that was wishful thinking. For us, it was actually sort of anticlimatic. It was the perfect place, the perfect ring, and the perfect guy, but I’m not sure I would have cried even it was a surprise. Hell, my response was an awkward “uh huh!” instead of “YES!!” (I made him ask me again later so I could say the right thing.)

We got giddy later once the weirdness of FINALLY being engaged settled in. Don’t worry about it! I think romantic moments are rarely what we expect them to be.

Post # 13
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Definitely in the same boat here! SO proposed to me in bed before sleep. I said yes, but it was pitch black so I made him turn the light on and ask again. I said yes but it seemed like a spur-of-the-moment thing (no ring either) so I said I wasn’t comfortable and that I had kind of been expecting a proposal while we were on holiday over Christmas. He was totally ok with doing it later and not telling our families or anyone about the in-bed proposal. Since then, I’ve ruined his ideas for the proper proposal twice (first time I was snooping (DON’T DO IT LADIES), second time he kind of spilled the beans for another at-home proposal and I said I was thinking something more eventful especially considering the in-bed proposal and the fact that the ring isn’t a surprise. Now the poor guy is planning it again. So, two failed proposals and two failed proposal plans! I feel so bad about it all; my SO is an angel though.

Post # 14
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ohhbitty:  aww thats really sweet. A proposal is special with or without a ring. It’s a commitment between you and your future husband, so a ring is just a bonus! My story is similar to yours, been engaged for over a year now and my FI re-proposed this past Sunday with a ring this time. As far as I’m concened, getting proposed to more than once doesn’t take away from the magic; I wouldn’t mind get re-engaged every year :p 

Post # 15
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My husband proposed to me three times as well. The first time, we hadn’t been together very long and there wasn’t a ring. The second time was a few years later and he could finally get me a ring–but it was a little silver thing he got off of the internet for $30. He got it out of the mail and just thrust it into my hand, so there was no romance there lol. The third time though, he did something romantic, got down on his knee and gave me my current engagement ring. I did cry the third time. So yes, there is a chance that you will be able to enjoy the moment and cry the third time 🙂

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