- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Ok, just a heads up, this is a bit of a rant/vent. Sorry it’s long.
FI and I are living with one of FI’s friends. He moved into our place back in October. He had been kicked out of his previous residence because the landlord decided to sell the house. So, we offered our spare room and let him move in. He is a bit messy (in his own room), but he paid the rent on time and was somewhat quiet. We paid about $100 to set-up cable for his room and had to sign a 2 year contract for the room extension.
Well, he started dating someone in mid-November. She is nice and we met her a few times. They hang out only on the weekends because she works days, he works nights and she has a 6 month old child that goes to bed early. So they maybe had gone on 10-12 dates by the beginning of January.
This is his first girlfriend, EVER, at the age of 26. We tried setting him up with other girls in the past, but things never really clicked. We are glad to see he is in what seems to be a good relationship.
Well, about 2 weeks ago (Jan. 13) our roommate was acting a little strange and giddy. He finally confided in my FI that he had bought a ring and would be proposing to his girlfriend. My FI was flat out floored. Our roommate asked what my FI thought, and his first words that came tumbling out were, “Are you crazy? You barely know here!” Now, I admit and so does my FI, these weren’t the best words, but I don’t blame him for it being a gut reaction.
Our roommate got a little upset after my FI’s reaction, but moved on. He kept with his plans and proposed. He proposed on Jan. 15 (on their 2 month anniversary). She said yes, which is great, though still a bit of a shock, IMO. She just finalized her divorce from her ex 4 months ago!!
Now, I personally would not get engaged to someone after 2 months, especially if a child was involved because I think you should be really careful about stability and consistency in a child’s life. But, it’s not my decision or my life….so all “shock” aside, it’s his choice, I am happy (though slightly worried) for them.
My rant is that he just dropped on us last Friday that he is moving in with her this week! He gave us 3 days notice. I am so irked because we dropped the money and a 2 year ($240) contract for the cable. We even added him to the lease.
He finished moving his stuff out tonight and he didn’t even bother to clean the room properly or his bathrooom (which is disgusting). I am just so annoyed because we were being nice to him to let him move in (we gave him a huge rent discount) and now he is leaving us hanging.
I am probably overreacting, but I am irritated.