Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
Hey everyone: I was just wondering if anyone had proposed to their fi? I am considering it … We talk about marriage and kids and the future. We have been living together and are joint together financially. We are in a really good place financially now that he changed jobs, I’ve been out of school for over a year and got a raise after six months in my career. I have never really dreamed of someone proposing to me, meaning the proposal part was just not something I ever thought about. So it doesn’t matter to me who proposes. That being said he said that he wants to do the proposing, which was, well, almost a year ago now.
I really want to get him a nice watch with an inscription and plan a fun evening out together.
I just don’t want him to say no.
Post # 3
@laceydoilies: My friend proposed to her FI and its funny because he laughed and her and she was like um its not funny and he explained that he was going to propose to her! and he got down on one knee and proposed. It was really sweet.
And its every guy’s fear when they propose that the girl will say no. LoL
I don’t see anything wrong with you proposing! Good luck! please give us an update!!!
Post # 4
do it!!! it’s time someone breaks non sense traditions!
Post # 5
I know a girl who did, and her boyfriend was very happy (and a bit emotional !) about it. They got married the year after.
Follow your heart … and you know, whoever is proposing will be afraid to hear a ”no”, but if you have already talked about it as a possibility in the future, and that you two are committed and in love, I don’t see why he would say no ! Good luck !!!
Post # 6
@laceydoilies: Im not a fan of women proposing to men. That’s just me. why not just ask him about your future together? If he was going to propose a year ago, then why hasn’t he proposed so far? Maybe he’s not yet ready for marraige or maybe he’s saving for your ring. Either way, talk to him.
It’s one thing to propose because you want to, it’s another thing to propose because he didn’t.
Post # 7
@laceydoilies: If I had a girlfriend that proposed to me, I’d feel extremely happy knowing that she loved me enough to put herself out there like that. Most women would never do that.
At the end of the day, I’d still want to be the one that “officially” proposed to her though. So I’d still get down on one knee and ask her because I tend to be more traditional.
Post # 8
I proposed to my FI! He absolutely loved it and wears his ring every day. 🙂 I made sure he was OK with me proposing, however. Since your SO said “he wants to do the proposing,” I would wait. Maybe you can ask him for a timeline?
Post # 9
@laceydoilies: I proposed to FI! He was ready and kept saying that he was going to, but couldn’t yet and, in my eyes, making excuses. He’d always say when I brought it up, “You’re welcome to ask me if you’re going to be impatient. Just be warned, I want a massive rock!” So, I got him a ring and planned out this really nice evening. It all got messed up because he got out of class early, but he loved it and said yes and was super excited. Then, a couple months later, he presented me with my ring and I realized that he wasn’t making excuses. He was promised his parents’ wedding rings and was waiting for them to upgrade to ask me. Oops. It makes a great story, though, and I wouldn’t have changed it a bit. I say, make sure he’d be ok with you asking (some guys would be put off) then GO FOR IT!
Post # 10
I think this is a great idea. I wish that I’d proposed to my husband, in addition to him proposing to me. I kind of see proposals as a formality though; I think the decision to marry is usually determined already and nobody should propose if they don’t know the answer. That said, proposing is a really romantic opportunity to express your love and commitment and affirm that it’s reciprocated. Why should men have all the fun? I wish I had thought of it before I got engaged.
Post # 11
Yay! Do it! I am so in favour of women taking the initiative here. It’s 2013 and it kills me to see all the waiting posts on here. Women, we have the vote, we can work, we are independent, yet we still sit and wait for the man to decide we are good enough and when the time is right. I know it’s just tradition, but for some reason it just doesn’t sit well with me.
My fiance and I decided together to get married. I picked out the ring I liked and we only did the proposal thing because he wanted to. This was after we already booked our venue and I bought my dress. Tee hee.
Post # 12
I’d definitely hint at it first and see how he reacts, just ask how he’d feel about a management ring or something because some men would hatenit. But I think it is a great idea! Keep us updated!
Post # 13
You should do it! If you are thinking about it and are confident about the relationship, it shouldn’t matter who makes the move. Proposing is a huge thing and he might just be nervous, haha
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Pretty_Chick: Haha well I actually do want to propose. We have talked about it quite a bit – I guess I just don’t see why I have to wait around if I know what I want.
@HonoraryNerd: lol I love your story. I know he would not like a ring (and has even said the only ring hewould wear would be the wedding band), so that’s why I thought a nice watch. Do you have a photo of the ring?! I would love to see!
Thanks everyone else! I’ll have to put some cash away and look for the perfect watch! Will update when I find what I want and make the plans!
Post # 15
Not my cup of tea. I would always be in constant questioning of “if i never asked, would he have?” Anywhoo, here’s an interesting article on the subject: http://www.livescience.com/25198-who-should-propose-marriage.html
Post # 16
@laceydoilies: It’s a tungsten puzzle ring that I got from Forever Metals.com. I’d had him sized (he accidently found out I was going to propose, so at least he was cooperative) at an 8, but the site has their own sizing tools, so it ended up being too big. Unfortunately, I’d had it laser engraved, so I couldn’t exchange it. His half says WIS +10 and mine says CON +10. I wore mine until presented with the ring I wear now. Since it’s too big, he wears them both on a chain.