pros and cons of a seating chart

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

I don’t think it’ll upset anyone – just group like people together to make sure everyone knows someone else at their table. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

mrswilliams711:  Personally I don’t see any cons to a seating plan; just make sure you seat people with people they know, or, in the case of people who don’t know anyone else, people you think they will get on with. We did this and everyone had a blast, we had people moving places between courses at one table so they could chat to everyone which I was pretty chuffed about (I knew they’d get on well). 

On the other hand I can see loads of cons to not having one: that awkward thing of where to sit, what happens if there are odd spaces left, (eg a couple or family ends up being split up), etc. I’d hate to attend a wedding without a seating plan personally. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I love seating charts it makes things so much easier for the guest.  I have been to weddings that give you your exact seat and others who just give you the table number and you choose your own seat.  Either way is good with me but I think the latter is easier on the person making the seating chart.  The only time I think individual escort cards are needed is when tables are set up banquet style (long tables).

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Forest and Ball Room

We decided to not do a seating chart. Everyone in our family thought it was super cute to not rsvp so instead of assuming people are coming and taking time to make seating arrangments, we just posted on our EVENT on Facebook “Since we only recieved 5 RSVPs we have a “move your feet, loose your seat” policy. May the odds be ever in your favor” 

<br />Would I have rather had planned seating? Heck YEAH! Because I know exactly what is going to happen. My family and friends are going to go off in their cliques and not mingle. If we had planned seating we would break those suckers up a little better so that they don’t act like highschoolers. Sounds awful of me, but it is sadly true. Also would love to have my FI’s family sitting with my family so they meet. I know that isn’t going to happen on their own. Oh well.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Forest and Ball Room

The only cons I can really think of with a seating chart is having to remember who gets a long with who. Other than that, I am pro seating chart. Which DRIVES ME CRAZY that we aren’t doing one for ours. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

akkaer1:  only 5 RSVPs?! I’d be hunting everyone down. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Contemporary Art Center of Peoria

I’m also pro-seating chart!! I hate going to weddings/events where I don’t know anyone. 

The only con I can think of is just the time it’d take for you to put it together. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

IDK, I’ve recently been to 2 weddings.  One with, one without.  In some ways, I preferred without, because we had a little more freedom.  The one with, I was seated with my husband (duh), my mom and dad, and my brother and his wife.  While I like all those people, I see them all the time.  I would ahve rather sat with relatives I only see occasionally…..

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Forest and Ball Room

amberback:  I boarderline harrassed them. They said “you know we’re going. I don’t understand why you need a piece of paper to prove that to you.” People just don’t get it. I can’t just assume that these people are going just because they are family (mind you, with CHILDREN. at lease 3 per family.) I won’t even get started with my friends’ ideals on the RSVP either. That is a whole new circus. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

akkaer1:  ridiculous! I’d be setting the venue for 5 and tell the rest of them to sit on the floor!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Forest and Ball Room

amberback:  I have considered this. My aunt was one that RSVP’d and I thought about making her personal VIP seating and the rest of them fight to the death for a seat. My FI said no. I was kinda sad because then it’d be free entertainment plus a lesson in etiquette for them all. He’s a bit nicer than I am, I guess. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Seating charts where I’m from don’t happen.  I have only been to one wedding with a seating chart, in fact, even with going to about 5 a year on average for all of my 20+ life.  So, I didn’t have one at my wedding either.  I would look at what is typical in your area to guide you.  If people typically do seating charts, it’s probably expected.  If people don’t, seating charts may be seen as rude.  Where I’m from it is seen as to dictating to your guests.   

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

mrswilliams711:  I see no cons. My seating chart was pretty easy. It took about 2 afternoons while I was at work. Now everyone has a seat and should be happy. If by chance someone is not happy, they only have to sit there for the meal and can move after that.

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