Post # 1
I’m trying to decide right now between a small family and friends wedding in Wisconsin at a local beach, and an elopementeqsue intimate tropical wedding. My family and friends are okay with not attending, so there isn’t any drama to worry about, I just need to decide…D:
Heres what I have so far:
-we are both quiet, introverted people who don’t like to be the center of attention
-romantic and intimate
-no stress about deciding who to invite
-most likely better weather than Wisconsin
-we could have the wedding in April instead of waiting until July when the cruise prices go up (for the honeymoon)
-he can have a dolphin as his best man
-the regret of not having family there to help me get ready and share the moment
-cost for a wedding package
-we were offered free photography from a friend if we have it at home
-no reception right after
-we don’t get to have the “first look” or whatever it’s called, because we’d have to spend the night before the wedding together
-stress of planning somewhere we have never been before
-lack of personalization
-shipping my dress there
Is anyone else having an intimate wedding, or had one and has advice? Thanks!
Post # 3
Having a dolphin as a Best Man would win me right away ;P
I think thie elope-y wedding sounds lovely, intimate, and relatively stress-less. That would be my choice, but I am also a person who wishes we could elope (FI is adament about a big wedding, sigh)!
Post # 4
The only thing that was holding me back from a destination wedding was the fact that my parents couldn’t come, if that isn’t a big deal then I would say go for it! It’s a wedding and honeymoon in one and you can focus on each other rather than the stress that comes with a wedding and trying to please everyone.
Post # 5
Personally, I am WAY more inclined toward a DW. Less stress, and it is smaller than a blowout hometown wedding so you don’t have to worry about a million people there that you don’t even know! The biggest con for me is the possibility of distant friends and relatives getting upset or angry when they aren’t invited. But with a DW, the only people you have to worry about being there are the people who care about you enough to come!
Post # 6
“-he can have a dolphin as his best man”
this alone is more than enough reason to do a DW. LOL 🙂
we are doing a DW in maui first week of March 2014.
no reception(i dont care for one), just us 2, our daughter and parents from both sides.
simple easy and done! 🙂
Post # 7
Getting married in Cancun, but whats the difference in symbolic an lagal marriage?
Post # 8
@ponderosa13: Symbolic ceremony, it’s not legal. It’s a wedding, but you don’t get a legal binding paper with it.
Legal, you sign the paper work that makes you “man & wife, or wife & wife, or man & man”
Post # 9
I had a small wedding in Paris, and honestly, I am so happy I did.
It was either Paris, or back in Toronto at the Ritz which would of set us back like 100k and we would of spent it with people we didn’t ‘love’.
The most important people came to Paris, and I did it all for less than 20k
Post # 10
@SonjaFunnell: Have you decided or narrowed down to where? And your family/friends would definitely not go?
We had a “first look” even though we spent the night prior together =) DH hadn’t seen me in my dress/hair/makeup so it still felt like a first look!
We love an adventure so having a tropical DW meant we’d have a wonderful memory for the rest of our lives!
Post # 11
I’m doing a tropical DW – and I’m inviting a bunch of people and a lot of them are coming. It hurts me to know though that I can’t invite everyone or that not everyone I invite will be able to make it, but my DW will be so different and unique and exactly what I want, that I know in the end I’ll be happy. Those people can celebrate with me another time.
Post # 12
you can personalize all you want and even bring stuff over. and usually the wedding package includes a dinner after. and you can always get ready in seperate rooms. also ur dress is uaually free. and photographers are any where from 500-2000. and not rlly stressful cuz you meet with them when you get there. I think having a DW is cheaper for the couple and keas stressful. you should look into it more
Post # 16
@sharkchomp: We were thinking of Florida mostly, because the cruise we want to take leaves from there. I looked at some Miami and Ft. Lauderdale packages. I just can’t decide yet if I really want something where my family can’t come.
Could you tell me how you did the getting ready process? Did you do it at the hotel and drive to the location seperately?
@carlypaige: I would really want to make sure I could have an arch with tons of flowers on it, a lot of the packages charge so much for one….I don’t know how to bring an arch on a plane though 🙁 What kind of things could you bring to the ceremony? Anything that wouldn’t cost in a package would be a help!
Everyone else, thanks for your replies!