Post # 1
So the wedding is still a ways away (June 2015) but as June of this year draws closer, I am starting to think a little more about some of the details. I want all the standard “do 12 months before” stuff crossed off by the time June rolls around.
We have been tossing around ideas in our head for details such as photography. Our original plan was to go with an amazing photographer friend. She took some wonderful pictures of me (and at our planned venue too, how perfect!) and said she’d give us a slammin’ deal ($200 off an already reasonable package price!) I adore this girl and she knows me, my style and a lot of my friends and family but isn’t so close that it’d be hard for her to do the photography.
Now my mom had texted me asking me my plans for photography. Apparently my aunt and uncle asked her and she suspects they will probably offer to do the photos for me if I want. She told them I’m super focused in school right now (4 weeks left!!) and that I’d get back to them once school is done.
Part of me is in love with the idea. My uncle photographed my mom’s wedding and would have done my brother’s if he hadn’t been with his daughter acros the country (they live over there and cousin was 9 months pregnant at wedding date) I have always loved his style of photography. Very candid and real. I adore the moments he captures and love the idea of having those memories.
And I can’t lie, I’m pretty frugal and the thought of spending such a big chunk of change on wedding pictures makes me feel a little quezy. The savings cost would be huge for us. I am the bride who bought a $140(taxes included) wedding dress. Spending 3x that on pictures of it.. well I struggle with that. A lot.
But I’m also worried about the family aspect of it. I always hear these stories about it all going south.. I don’t want to end up with one of those stories. I also don’t want them to feel obligated because they 100% are not. I wasn’t even going to bring it up and had other plans but now that they are asking they have me thinking..
So my bee friends, this is where I ask you to weigh in. What do you think? Do you see anything I’m missing? How do I choose?!?
Post # 2
lalalyanne: Is your photographer friend a wedding photographer?
As far as your uncle, I assume he will be a guest and will have a camera, so you will have his shots anyway.
Post # 3
Astra: not fully fledged or anything but she is a photographer and has done some weddings, I’ve seen some of her work/experienced it first time.
As for the uncle, yes they’d be there. I can’t expect anything unless I commit to it though.. We went on a trip to Europe years ago (like, in 2006) and I still have yet to see any photo of that trip. Due to the nature of them living across the country (in canada, so we’re not talking a couple hours 😉 ) we are not in close enough contact to assume I’d get my pick of the pics If he wasn’t actually taking them.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2015 - Briarwood Golf Course/ Country Club
I would be cautious of having your uncle do the pictures. The problem with that is he can get so swept up in talking to other family members and friends and forget to take pictures, when if you have a professional take them they don’t know anyone there and is much less likely to have that happen. I opted not to have a family member of my fiance take them because it gets too messy. Granted you can save a ton, but if I have a problem with getting the pictures back or the way they are edited or anything like that it makes the situation very awkward and difficult to approach (because they are doing a favor). I was just too concerned about the boundary of family (who is also still a guest at your wedding) and that person being your professional photographer. So for me I looked for someone else. I didn’t want to have to worry about hurting feelings or that person not really enjoying the wedding because they have to work it. This is just my opinion… I hope it helps you!
Post # 5
Personally, I would not have a family or friend do my wedding pictures. It’s way too risky, in my opinion. If something goes wrong, the relationship could be ruined and I don’t think I’d want to chance it.
Post # 6
lalalyanne: I NEVER mix business with family. EVER. Just a personal rule.
Post # 7
lalalyanne: My cousin’s husband did our engagement photos and gave us a great deal, but we are hiring someone else for the wedding so that he and my cousin can sit and enjoy the wedding as guests.
Also, if you don’t like something a hired professional is doing, it’s a lot easier to tell them than when it’s family.
Post # 8
I would say this is a really bad idea. Have you read this post? http://www.rocknrollbride.com/2012/01/should-i-book-a-professional-wedding-photographer-or-get-a-friend-to-do-it-for-free-a-cautionary-tale/
Imagine having a beautiful wedding day, and your uncle gets maybe 10 or 15 shots you kinda like, and the rest are… well… crap. Never mix family and business – I would hire a a pro. You may not appreciate the photos right this second, and you may think a few thousand is too much, but trust me, when you and your husband are celebrating your 10, 20, 30 or 40 year anniversary, that’s ALL you will have left to remember your day by.