Provide transportation to reception for Wedding Party?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that’s a pretty big faux pas.  They are doing a lot for you by being in your bridal party, I think it is expected that you will provide them transportation.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, especially because it’s a 30 minute drive. You need to provide them with transportation.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@EmmiJeanne:  if I was one of your bridal party attendants, I wouldn’t be too happy about it.  It is a very long, busy and tiring day with lots going on. The bridal party is ensuring that your day runs smoothly, helping you in many ways (and I’m sure being supportive in the months leading up to the big day), and making sure any issues are resolved with you not having to deal with it. Arranging transportation for them ensures everyone gets to the venue safely and together, doubles as a thank you for all of their help that day and is one less thing that the bridal party attendants need to think of.

 

If limos are too expensive, maybe renting sedans might be an alternative (depending on the # of people in the bridal party).  Also customizing a package asking for less time should help bring down the cost.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I don’t have a wedding party, but if I had one, everybody would gather into 1 ou 2 cars (THEIR cars) and follow us to destination. Unless you are having a limo, I would presume you would all ride together if space allows. If you don’t, I don’t see why it would be a faux pas to drive to the place themselves. I’ve never heard of people in my area, doing other than that.

 

If you really want to afford transportation but cost less than a limo, rent a SUV or some other nice car for a day, which is a lot less expensive. 

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

With that many people you wouldn’t even fit in a normal limo. Have you looked at shuttles? couldn’t your bridal party be taken to the reception and then the limo comes back to get you and your groom?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How long will you expect the wedding party to stick around for pictures after the ceremony? If they are okay to leave right away then I think it is okay not to have one. If they will be sticking around for quite awhile I think you should provide transportation or at least arrange a car pool. I ask because if they have a SO they will either have to take two cars to the reception or the SO will have to sit around and wait after the ceremony to leave for the reception.

That does sound expensive. I’m not sure what your location is typically like for pricing but in WI we had a 14 passenger limo bus for $600 for 5 hours.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m going to disagree with everyone here and say that it’s fine. How are they going to get home if you hire a limo to get them to the reception from the ceremony? Their vehicles will obviously still be 30 minutes away at the ceremony site, or pay for the limo to stick around all night. We aren’t providing transportation for anyone and we will be driving our own vehicle for us. Granted, our venues are only about 15 minutes apart, but I don’t think it’s a big deal if they have to drive themselves.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@EmmiJeanne:  For the wedding party, you should provide transportation. Our venue is only a 5 minute drive and we still rented a limo to take us all from the church to the hall

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Three letters: DWI

You do everything you can to keep your wedding day from being ruined by those letters.  Which includes getting a shuttle, calling a cab company and reserving a few cabs to be outside of your venue at the end, reserving rooms at the venue and working out a discounted price.  If you love these people shelling out cash to keep them safe is a no brainer especially when they are spending money on you for frivolous items such as a dress they will never wear again. IMHO

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

If I went to a wedding and was to drive after the reception it would be my responsibility, not the newlywed’s, to make sure I don’t drink to the point I can’t take my car. It’s just what everybody does, whatever the events be. Still, there is a difference between calling a cab for our loved ones and paying for a limo to get them there. If the issue is : get them home safely, then it’s not an etiquette issue at all, it’s just a practical and security issue and the limousine is irrelevant in the matter. 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@keriandblake:  I disagree. Her guests are adults and are more than capable of choosing to NOT drive drunk, or to not get too drunk to drive themselves home. Mommying her guests is not her responsibility.

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