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It sucks, but if it were me, I would just wear the more modest one. It just depends if you are going to feel uncomfortable being around her while in your teeny bikini.
Is his mom the type to make her opinion of your attire known and ensure everyone feels awkward and uncomfortable because she feels you're not dressed properly? Bathing suits are revealing, there's really no getting away from that. To keep the peace I'd probably wear something less skimpy and save the tiny bikini for a holiday without her. Perhaps you can wear a tankini or a bikini that covers a bit more?
If she's conservative in her own attire and choices but doesn't expect others to be or pass judgement then I'd wear it and enjoy myself! Perhaps take a cover up anyway!
Save it for your girlfriends, it sucks that you can't wear your new bikini but she's not going to appreciate it so save it for people who will!
I would just wear something more modest. You can always wear your skimpy bikini another time
I think the question is: Do you want a reaction from her or not? Because you know SHE is going to comment on it.
If you want her to comment on it, then go ahead and wear it.
If you don't want to cause that kind of trouble, then don't wear it.
Personally, I'm not confidant enough to rock a bikini. But even if you are, if you know it will cause waves, perhaps a more modest two piece? There is still a difference between a string, thong bikini and just a regular bikini or even a "tankini" that aren't as uncomfortable as a one piece but more modest for your MIL. Personally, if you know it will be an issue, I don't think a bikini is a place to cause an issue.
Well if I were you, I would not wear a skimpy one. I'd wear something cute and in more conservative style. You know one-piece styles are in fashion right now. I think "IMAGE" is important. I would like to be seen as a lovely lady in front of older folks or children. You can save your hot bikini for your girls gataway or vacation with only your SO.
I wouldn't wear the skimpy bikini but I also wouldn't go all the way to a one-piece suit. Bet a more modest bikini or a tankini or something that you will still find cute and comfortable but your MIL won't find so inappropriate.
I would probably go towards keeping the peace, but I would not go as far as to wear a full one piece. I would probably go for a bikini that covers a little bit more. There's nothing wrong with a bikini... just make sure that the bottoms cover your bum, and that you're not spilling out of the top.
My SO's mom is ok with barely bikinis, but I personally just feel weird when I wear them around his family. I'd rather be confident in what I'm wearing and know that I'm not ruffling feathers than be second guessing my attire all the time.
Are we talking thong and barely nip covering top? If so, I would leave it at home. Maybe if you posted a picture of it or something similar we could help better.
There are so many cute, more conservative swimsuits out there. I think you can find a happy medium and save the tiny bikini for a time when you can really strut your stuff!
Normally I would say it's your body and a bikini is a perfectly normal piece of clothing, but you mention that it's skimpy even for you, so I think a family vacation is not the place to rock anything risque. Won't you be uncomfortable there knowing she's judging you for what you are wearing? Don't rock the boat - I would wear a normal bikini.
I'm the opposite here. My body, my clothes. If they don't like it, tough. Of course, I'd ALSO have my FI on my side. (Also, I've had two kids, both c-section, and I still fit in a size 4 dress. I've earned the right to wear what I want. Besides, I'm more like the mom in the song "Harper Valley PTA" and proud of it. :P)
My FI's parents are strict Mormons, but I still wear my short shorts, skirts, sundresses, etc around them. My mom doesn't approve of some of my clothes (too short in her opinion), but oh, well.
If YOU don't feel comfortable, that will show. And they'll think you did it to spite your MIL. If you're comfortable, they'll figure it's what you usually wear. You'll get the usual "I don't approve" looks and comments, of course.
When all else fails: ask your hubby what he thinks. If he says "go for it", then go for it. If he says, "ummmm, maybe not", then go get something a bit more modest.
good luck and have fun on the vacation/holiday trip!!!
If wearing it is going to cause trouble, wear a more modest suit. Is it really worth the touble in the long run?
I would wear modest. I don't want to have to feel judged when I'm in my bathing suit.
you have plenty of time to wear it, there is no reason you have to wear it on your brief holiday with her .. especially if you know she will disapprove . I am sure you would be irritated if your FI did something to purposely/knowingly annoy or make your parents feel uncomfortable
I agree that there is a ton of ground between a skimpy bikini and a one piece! I have all two piece bikini-type swimsuits, and I wouldn't call any of them skimpy, so just go find something that is still two pieces, but just not as small of pieces :)
I would go a bit more modest. Maybe a two piece that isnt as skimpy as you call it.
F that, wear it! You can always bring a cover up.
I'm known for heels and I get comments form both our moms since my heels always make me taller than FI. Too damn bad, I like heels and I'm gonna wear them, and I say the same for your bikini!
Of course you have the right to wear what you want!
On the other hand, pick your battles. Is it really worth fighting about?
Are you comfortable with her making comments? I wouldn't be. I would love to have the confidence to rock a tiny bikini, but even if I did, I would be wayy wierded out to be made a spectical of by my MIL..
Just decide which one you want more: her comments and possibly feeling uncomfortable on the trip or rocking an awesome new suit.
Thanks for these comments ladies (and sorry about the double post).
I've decided to go with last year's *slightly* more modest number, basically the same classic black bikini with a little more coverage. But, hey, I can pack the new one too... it takes up no room at all! For those who asked, the new one is briefer up top- the coverage is the same on the briefs.
What I won't compromise on is the string tie-style. I know she'll still have something to say, but I don't care. What would she think if she knew her darling son caught his rays wearing nothing but a sports sock, Red Hot Chili Peppers stylee? LOL She'd probably think I was making it up, or forced him into it.
I'm a slutty, son-grabbing bitch, in case you didn't know... :-D
@Beccka: LOL at your last line.
I'd wear the skimpy one and pack a nice cover-up. If she doesn't like skimpy bikinis, she doesn't have to wear one!
Wear what makes you comfortable (as long as all your bits are covered that is) and let her worry about her own issues. As long as you are properly covered she has no business telling you what to wear, it is your body.
On a side note this cracks me up because I'm the modest one and my mother insists on running around flaunting her newly purchased body. :)
String styles aren't that bad. I was picturing bum floss bottoms here. 
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Ok bees, we're off on a short break with his folks. I've bought a classic black bikini, which is pretty skimpy even by my standards but I love it.
The thing is, his mother is VERY conservative. I know she'll flip out when she sees me in it. So now I'm having second thoughts. Do I be a peacemaker and go for a more modest one-piece in swimming style? Or do I just wear it and face the consequences?