(Closed) PSA: Boudoir Photos

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 4
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I completely agree. I don’t click on the boudoir photo threads because they’d be inappropriate to see at work. Some of them are very scandalous! Definitely keep to yourself. Hey, i have a handful myself. They stay on my laptop. Some border pornographic, though…you could definitely lose a job over this =

Post # 5
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think everyone here is an adult and can make their own decisions without a stranger posting a warning – if you don’t like the boudoir pics don’t look at them. i think that unless you are their Mom, coworker, boss, friend or FH than your opinion of what they should and shouldn’t post is unnecessary and likely unwelcome.

Post # 6
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3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

while i do agree with some things you are saying, i still think that many of the photos show no more than some would show  in public. also no one would really know that it is you… i mean cmon… most of these screennames are so random that there would be no proof… many people look so different all done up and all. i dont think people are stupid… they know what to post and what not to.

Post # 7
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Very good point!  Things also to keep in mind is to not share photos online anywhere that can link you back to your home.  Such as photos of your street address or vehicles.  People can google home addresses and get a map to your home or they can look up who a license plate number is registered to and thus find your home.  Not safe at all!

I have to always do a double take with my photos I post to check for these type things.

Post # 8
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Thank you for this neutral post. I don’t want to comment in peoples’ particular threads, but I think it bears saying that this is not always a good idea! Just look at what happened with the bee recently whose husband got an email about things she’d said here about having an affair! I think too often we feel a sense of false security on here because it is such a nice community. I am not easily offended, and I actually like the idea of a boudoir shoot. But isn’t the point that they are a gift for FI’s eyes only?!

And remember, once something is on the internet, it is pretty much there forever. You can never reclaim these pictures. Not now, not in 15 years, not when you are up for a promotion and your boss decides to go information mining, not when your own kids are looking up information about their parents’ early days, etc….

This is not a case of “if you don’t like it, don’t look.” For everyone who likes to point that out, I’d offer them their own advice. If you think this thread is “unwelcome” advice, ignore it — it’s not directed at any one bee. This is just a reminder because as the previously mentioned bee learned, things posted here can come back to haunt us even if we never imagined it.

Post # 9
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2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree that posting semi-nude photos of yourself is not a good idea… but people make their own choices in life… so be it. 

I know I wouldn’t do it, but to each their own.  Tongue out

Post # 11
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Now I have to disagree. If the mods close this, I will be exceedingly disappointed. If other bees can post (by definition, not a judgment) soft-core porn, we should be allowed to post a polite, non-attacking dissent…

Post # 12
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t have a problem with women posting their boudoir pics. They are grown women who make their own decisions. If you don’t like to look at them, don’t open the thread 😀

And I know that one woman on this thread who agrees with you has posted her boudoir pics here previously 😉

Post # 13
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255 posts
Helper bee

I have to agree with most of these posters – (@ejoyb loved the link, sent it to my FI as it sounds so much like him its not funny) – In New Zealand the whole ‘boudoir photo’ and ‘engagement photo session’ things are pretty uncommon (as in I know noone who has done either around their wedding).

But MANY women (I’m talking 40-60ish) get boudoir photos done and have them hanging in the house, womens’ bodies are beautiful and I think it is great that so many Bee’s are proud of their bodies that they are cool with posting them here. That being said if they were overtly sexual (I have seen NONE on the Bee that I would catagorise as that) or showed… your ‘swimsuit’ area (hehehe – thanks Ralph Wiggim) I think that would be inappropriate.

Go girls!

Post # 14
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i had some and never thought about.. until someone mentioned it.. i had them removed because i didn’t like the thought.. sometimes you just get excited and forget common sense

Post # 15
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@brittanymichelle: THANK YOU! This is exactly what I mean. I am not bashing anyone’s pictures or threads even. I just think sometimes we forget to be careful. I have gone back and had threads without pictures deleted just because I was worried that I revealed even just a bit too much info!

Post # 16
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have to agree with this too.  I know that I posted a few of mine a while back, but they weren’t really that racey.  But I still had them removed because I didn’t like the thought of it after I mulled over it a bit.  That being said, I’m all for woman confidence and feeling great about your body!  Just do whatever you want to do with your pictures.

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