Hello All,
I must vent about this because it is reallly been something i've noticed a lot lately and its driving me crazy,,,
Number one ladies: love the skin your in! We all want to "snatch it up" a bit before the big day but all these self-loathing i'm so fat, no dress fits, put a bag over my head posts/statements are rediculous!!!
A. you have a man who see you on a daily basis and loves so who are you trying to impress? He knows what he has and he loves it so work it!
B. drastic weightloss in a relatively short amount of time can leave you looking gaunt and sickly and what brides wants to look at those pictures for the rest of her life?
C. There is a dress out there for everyone! Fat, small, wide, or tall, there is a shilouette for evey body type and inversely there is a part of every body that is amazing.. You may be wide hipped but you have a killer shoulder and back line....get a fuller skirt and show off your awesome back and shoulders....Plus size does not mean that every part of you needs covering and in fact brides who do that often get the reverse outcome. Puting on layers upon layers--wrapping arms etc.--makes girls look bir=gger and wider. Instead of covering up everything, accentuate your best part and everything else will look 10x better!
D. Most importantly be yourself.. If you not a size 2, why are you comparing how you look in your dress to a size 2 in hers? Obviously the two wont compare and you are setting yourself up to find things wrong with yourself. Im not saying the size to will always look better, its just that its apples and oranges so whats the point? let her rock her two and you kill 'em in your size 22:)
Just for inspiration here is my baby....isnt she great?
Inpspire me and everyone else...show me yours!!!!
Oooh, beautiful!!!!!!!! :) Great words of encouragement too, that I think we all need to hear once in a while!
you're awesome, thank you for posting this! Btw you look amazing in that dress!
You look great! I applaud you for such a wonderful post. I too believe there is a dress for everyone. Thanks for the small reminder to us all, including myself. I'm down 20lbs and obessed with loosing more and can't seem to be happy in a dress because I'm so determined to loose more. THANKS A MILLION!
@dropofsunshine: your welcome! i'm sure you will look great in whatever you choose :)
@MrsPeterson86: you look beautiful in your dress i also am a size 16-18 in wedding dresses my chest is a size 38DDD im going for more form fitted dresses they seem to be more flattering on me
heres another i dident like the top
both dresses are mori lee by julietta
@HisNightOwl2014: They are both gorgeous...thats definitely the fit for you!
Your dress is amazing!!!!! :D Great words as well spoken with pride :D Thats exactly how i think us full figured ladies should feel all the time :D I love the way i am and thats how its going to be :D lol We work it ! :D
@MrsPeterson86: aww thank you your dress is stunning may i ask who its by?
You look great!!! and I compleatly agree with everything you just said. I have been a big girl all my life, always thought I was ugly and tried to cover myself up, even wore sweatshirts in summer to hide my arms. In az thats not so fun 105+ weather. I always thought no one would think I was beautiful or love me. went threw depression in my younger years. It wasnt until the last year of highschool I started to like myself.
I think I have made a great turn around from then to now! I love all of me and my man does too. thats all that really matters anyway. Im confident and know I can rock anything I want :)
here is me in my beauty. Im a size 24 (Its too big right now, not fitted yet)
I agree, self hating posts make me 
. Calling onesself "fat" is like letting the bullies into your head. We all need more self & body love. <3
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Everyone looks super Amazing in their dresses!! They're gorgeous on you all.
I LOVE being a full figured woman and it breaks my heart when I see women hate themselves because they are not the stereotypical woman. I LOVE this thread and hope it gains positive momentum!
Don't mind my pink bra....we had a mishap with my "dress bra" showing up on time.
@MrsPeterson86: I love everything you said. Wish I could have read those words a couple months ago lol. I ended up gaining weight after we bought my dress..and they had to sew in extra fabric for my dress to fit. I was devestated. My biggest fear of my dress not fitting came true. I finally got over it..and had the best time at my wedding. And here's two pics:
@MrsPeterson86: LOVE your words! Thanks for reminding everyone to appreciate and adore whom they are!
@Amber.Dawn: well you look awesome!! and i'm glad you enjoyed your day :)
@MrsPeterson86: thank you for posting that !
I can only agree that we are all different and are all beautiful in our uniqueness.
anyways, that dress was made for you ! ! you are so beautiful.
Oh I love this thread!
I always think it's so crazy when posters say things like "even a full figured girl can look good in a wedding dress". Um, duh. As if there was any doubt? :)
Hey girls. Due to a very long illness last year, I went from my normally athletic body (around about a US size 8-10/UK 10-12 plus quite a bit of toning from being very active) to a US 12-14/UK 16. It's pretty depressing not being able to wear any of my clothes! I'm well now, but really struggling to lose this weight as I've never had to diet before or work out more than I usually do.
Trying on wedding dresses was heartbreaking, especially since I don't have enough time to get a professional dress made. I've had to hit sample sales. None are in my size!
Would I be considered a plus size bride at this point? I want to love the skin I'm in, but to be honest I simply don't because I've never been this weight before and I can't wear any of my clothes. I always had a bit of curve before and LOVED it. I don't see myself as crazily overweight, but after trying on new clothes and going wedding dress shopping, I think I must be bigger than I feel I am. Some of the girls I've seen call themselves plus size don't look like they are at all!
Any advice for a girl trying to suck this tummy in? Or anyone who can comiserate about the way bridal dresses make you feel like a whale?
I've put a photo up of me trying on a sample dress that was thankfully a bit too big. Bear in mind, it was an 8am sample sale and I hadn't had any coffee or put makeup on! I've also lost about 5lbs since then.
Also, how have you girls deal with back flab peeking over the back of your dress? This is driving me crazy!
@iseultful2013: Hunny you are definitely not a "whale" and to be very blunt: i would take "fat" over dead any day! Be excited about life and marrying the man that you love rather than harp on the fact that your waist line has expanded. The trouble you have described with your dresses sound like an issue of fit and dress style rather than your body type. For example, I would go strapless rather than the look you have above which can make a bulky affect up top. Also, go for a corset back so you can sinch your dress in the perfect amount for your shape and not have any "spillage" in back. Once you try some different things you will be fine! Happy shopping :)
@MrsPeterson86: You rock, simple as that.
I'm not a plus size bride myself (whatever that even means-it's all just numbers) but I definitely have the same issues with my body and dresses fitting correctly. I think it's pretty universal for every bride.
So hat's off to you, for setting me straight and giving my inner bully a firm talking-to!
@MrsPeterson86: Thank you for your words, it is really needed right now as I am starting to try on dresses for my wedding. being a size 16 to getting pregnant and gaining 70lbs during it and not being able to lose any of it, i need/needed it at the time.
Thanks again.
LOVE this post! I'm a street size 20 at first I was like eh, i'll lose some weight- never did. Big deal? not so much. He met me at an 18 and loved me through a 20. I just had to find a dress that did my curves some justice and I found her.
I love this....I've been putting off dress shopping because...well...I feel ugh! You ladies all look amazing!!!!
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