Post # 1
So back in 2006, I worked at a clothing store, and my manager would told me about how she and her mother were psychic. I’m pretty skeptical. She read my hand one time, and told me “I see that you’re going to get married someday… but not to (FI’s name). I’m so sorry. It’ll be to a Swedish man with long blond hair, you’ll meet him in college.”
Ok so, #1, at the time, she was cheating on her husband with a rocker-type guy who had long blond hair, so I wonder if she was “projecting”? And #2, I remember complaining about my FI a lot at the time, (back when he was just my BF,) because of random silly things. So I’m wondering if she took that as I was unhappy, and “ran with it.”
But now since he’s my FI, and we’re getting married next year, I broke down last night and started sobbing. I’m afraid something is going to happen that will prevent us from marrying… like him dying. I was genuinely upset last night, and both he and my sister were telling me how ridiculous I sounded.
I just… want to know what I should believe? I generally never believe in psychics or mediums or anything… but that has put a hole in my heart since the day she said it to me. I’m 2 seconds away from finding a local psychic and going to get my palm read again to see if they tell me the same thing. What should I do? I KNOW this sounds ridiculous… I’m just very upset and confused. I feel like my FI is going to be taken away from me somehow. 🙁
Post # 3
Don’t put any weight in what your old boss said.
Post # 4
Well, it’s 2013 and you’re not married to a Swedish man with long blonde hair. And I’m assuming you’ve already graduated college. So…..
Post # 5
@AquaGrey8962: that’s it? take a deep breath and read what you just wrote.
– first of all i don’t believe in fate, psychics, whatever, i believe in choices.
-there is nothing that happened that would have given you any reason to think she was for real or had any reason or insight into this at all.
– this happened aaages ago – why are you still thinking about this?!
– why on earth would you believe your old ex manager who was apparently psychic and one time told you that you would marry a swedish guy with long hair? <– least credible source ever.
and to point out the ridiculousness of the situation – if she’s psychic and can tell who should/shouldn’t be together, why did she get married to the wrong guy then?
Post # 6
I would try not to worry about it…unless there are some questions/problems in your relationship that you’re really worrying about.
Post # 7
@peonyinlove: first of all i don’t believe in fate, psychics, whatever, i believe in choices.
I’ll be adding that to my list of favourite quotes. Well said.
Post # 8
I’m not sure how to feel about psychics either. I’ve been so tempted to go to one for quite a while now, but am not sure if I’m just going to be wasting my time & money. (I think I even wrote a thread on psychics.)
I think if it makes you feel any better, just go see another one…
But in all honesty, I don’t see how they are genuine or crimes would always be solved.
Post # 9
Who should you trust more: yourself, or your old boss, the “psychic”?
The answer is obvious, trust yourself. If you love you FI and you want to marry him, then it will happen, I highly doubt your psychic boss was predicting his death all those years ago (also, if you never met the long-blonde haired Swedish guy and have graduated college, then she’s aleady been proven wrong). However, if you are having legitimate concerns about marriage, I would openly communicate your (rational) fears to your FI so you can work through them. You could have reasonable fears, but are using this “psychic” prediction as a way to avoid those fears and come up with new ones.
Post # 10
Yeah… sorry, but it’s probably just stress getting to you because I’m sure if you took a moment to step back and read this from an outsider’s perspective, you’d see how silly it sounds. A Swedish man with long blond hair? Bwahaha, that’s ridic.
“Psychics” and their ilk use a combination of body cues and cold guessing to try and tell your future/fortune/whatever. They start with generals that almost anyone could relate to and dial in based on your reactions. It’s just silly to take stock in anything people tell you, especially in regard to your future. Nobody knows what’s to come, and as a PP says, it’s all choices and happenstance.
If you’re solid in your decision to marry him, go forth and be happy. Nobody knows what tomorrow holds, so worrying about it today is pointless.
Post # 11
Sylvia Browne, a “psychic” who actually makes money doing what she does, told Amanda Berry’s mom that her daughter was dead in 2004. They just found Amanda Berry alive in Cleveland. I wouldn’t put any weight in that.
Post # 12
Are you still in college? Have you met the Swedish dude with long blonde hair? Would you even be attracted to a man with long blonde hair? If that part of the “palm reading” didn’t come true, then why would the part about you not marrying your FI?
Like PPs have said- you decide your own fate. If you love your FI and want to marry him, you will!
Post # 13
@AquaGrey8962: She sounds wack. I think you’re feeling anxious about the upcoming wedding and doing some projecting of your own by focusing on this past incident. Forget her! You will be fine. 🙂
Post # 14
@jny1179: I’m not finished with college yet :
Post # 15
@AquaGrey8962: …..alright, if I even contemplate for a moment that this clothing store manager and her mother have “the gift”, AND take into account that if she is so gifted to be able to see one’s future with a mere glimpse of her hand…I’d have to assume she freakin loved clothes and retail a lot, because otherwise she’d be helping the cops find missing kids, reading the palms of politicians and rock stars and doing ANYTHING ELSE but managing a store….so you’re asking me to take a big leap here, because you and I now it’s total crap in this instance….ANYWAY, her prediction was of a Swedish man, with long blonde hair that you meet in college….I assume you’ve graduated, decided to marry this non-swedish person with hair type unknown because the Swede never showed up, probably doesn’t exist and why are you letting the rantings of some desperate and pathetic person who sold you a half cocked lie with NO proof of her abilities whatsoever bother you?
Post # 16
Please stop worrying yourself over this “psychic”. If you have *real* concerns with your relationship, talk them out with your FI. But don’t be concerned with the “predictions” of your ex-boss.