Public proposal from the witness point of view

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

That seems like a rude way to do a public proposal.  It was a captive audience, so they wasted a bunch of strangers’ time.  

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Maybe he didn’t know it would make a difference what part he chose to propose during? And my thoughts on public proposals : awwwe + I would hate a proposal like that ! Lol. I agree, too much pressure! But if they both like the spotligh, then perfect! And on her shocked expression , hopefully it was just excitement.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m pretty sure he didn’t know how the proposal would effect the timing. He was probably so nervous and hoping it would go off without a hitch.

 

It sounds like the audience loved it, and probably made the whole experience for them even more memorable. 

 

I’ve never witnessed a public proposal, but I always think they’re sweet. Especially after watching YouTube videos of over-the-top mob flashes, pug proposal, or anything of those sorts. 

 

And she was probably completely caught off guard and excited. Not everyone cries with happiness, or jumps up and down. I didn’t, even though I love my fiance more than anything in the world. I was just so shocked in the moment. 

 

Idk…sounds like you’re being a little cynical. Bah, humbug.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I hate public proposals… unless you know 100% that the person is okay with it and that the answer is going to be yes. A proposal should never be a complete surprise, and how hard it is to ask “how do you feel about this type of proposal?” It won’t ruin anything.

I’m actually possibly going to be doing one, as my SO and I are auditioning for a part in a show, and the characters are a couple (and the shows plot is about a wedding this year, so that should be fun), but I would NEVER do anything in the middle of the show. Assuming we both get the parts, I’m just going to catch him on stage at the very end and propose there. Maybe. If one or neither of us get the part, then I’m not doing it that way, or if the director tells me that I can’t.

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Hi! Im new here! I read what you said, and on one hand I can see how that would be annoying for you, being the one performing and all and how it must have affected ya’lls show. Also, if I were a paying customer I would probably be like “Aw! Yay! Now go away I paid for a show” Lol. But if my boyfriend proposed to me like that I would be elated! But I am someone who likes being in the spot light and I have dreamt of a huge public proposal! But I like reading someone elses pov. Interesting.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@HonoraryNerd:  Eurgh, I don’t mind public proposals until they start to inconvenience others. Anyone who proposes in a way that makes it harder for others to do their jobs, travel somewhere, or just generally go about their business is an asshole. No exceptions.

I mean I’m happy that there is love in the world, but if you block off a whole street while you propose then I am going to shove the marching band you hired out of the way to get where I’m going. And no, that doesn’t make me an asshole. People who do selfish things like that obviously don’t give a shit about other people, so why should other people give a shit about them? I get that a proposal is important, but maybe I have somewhere important to go too. Maybe I am going to my actual wedding but you are blocking traffic and making me late because your needs are so much more important than mine. Big annoying proposals really get on my nerves. 

I’m sorry this threw the whole concert off, that must have been really annoying. The guy should have at least told you this was happening beforehand. I feel sorry for his (ex?)FI too, that entire situation sounds like a nightmare and the guy is an even bigger asshole for pressuring her to say yes to his sudden proposal. It sounds like you have a really cool job, by the way. Does this kind of thing happen a lot? 

ETA: I just want to clarify that I have no problem with public proposals as long as they don’t inconvenience anyone. This entire post makes me seem like a massive grump (which I have been lately on the bee and IRL- sorry!) but I actually think public proposals can be sweet if they’re at a favorite restaurant or somewhere that means a lot to the couple. As long as they proposal doesn’t feel like the couple are using the proposal to scream ‘LOOK AT US! LOOK AT US!’ in a narcissistic ploy for attention then I’ll cheer with everyone else if the person beng proposed to looks happy (not scared or panicked) and says yes. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@Chandler114:  Welcome to the Hive! You could always hint around that you’d like that kind of proposal, maybe he’ll do it! 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I like watching them, as long as the girl doesn’t look horrfied/deer caught in headlights/runs away. Poor proposee, propser and audience if that happens!

Oh, and importantly, if it looks genuine. If it looks very superficial and purposefully attention-grabby then I’ll move on.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I do think public propsals are awesome when it’s what the guy is comfortable doing, the girl would like, AND no one is being inconvienced.

This proposal seems awkward.

Me I don’t like to be a center of attention for a large group.  *shudder*.  I wouldn’t have even got on stage!  But several of my friends would be over the moon with a public proposal (or had one and loved it).

I think the issue is really the people and how/where it’s done.  Like you said don’t go screwing up a performance, intermission was a great idea!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly I think it is awkward and bit impolite to interrupt 2000 people’s nights like that for something that they likely don’t care about. Want to propose in the lobby after the show? Go ahead! Just don’t force everyone to be focused on you.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I’m sorry, but they weren’t disrupting the show, they were part of it. This was already coordinated in advance, not some random dude walking up on the stage taking up time. Just like Santa chatting up the conductor is part of the show, this proposal was part of the show, and the audience LOVED it. 

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