Post # 1
to all the brides to be who think that strip clubs do not allow the men to touch the strippers, you are correct.
HOWEVER, strippers touch them men. This includes rubbing their breasts in his face and grinding her nearly naked butt into his crotch for at least 3 minutes (the dances last the length of the song). This is the equivalent of him getting fondled for three long minutes. Ok, you can deal with that? Good. Consider this: it’s customary for every guy in attendance to buy the groom at least one dance. At an average of 10 guys per bach party – on the conservative side- multiplied by 3 women per dance that’s 30 MIN of another woman sexually touching your man. Please tell me how women can reconcile this in their minds. I feel like a freak because it upsets the heck out of me and every girl i talk to seems to not grasp the severity of whats going on at these places. This is the best case scenario by the way, the worst case is the hotel room strippers who encourage the men to eat off their bodies, lick or touch them, and play cames like “feed the kitty” which involves them rolling up a dollar in the mans mouth and squatting naked over his face to pick the dollar up with their YOU KNOW WHAT.
Please sound off on your thoughts on this. I feel very alone in my objections and when I read these boards for support, I’m astonished at the number of posts from women that say “It’s no big deal, there’s no touching.” Please get with the program ladies.
Any one have any thoughts on this. I am beside myself with disgust. And yes i do trust my man.
Post # 3
What do you plan on doing for your bachelorette party?
I plan on having men buy me drinks, rubbing up against strangers on the dance floor, maybe a scavenger hunt that includes ’embarrassing’ things like getting phone numbers and boxers from random guys and being all around ‘hell on wheels’
It’s about one last night where it’s acceptable to go nuts. Would I have a problem if after we’re married he goes to a strip club? Heck yes! But for the Bachelor Party…
I do tend to be a jealous person, so I don’t really want to know what he’s doing for his party. He’s a good man, with honest friends who would take care of him. There’s no way I would deny him this one last tradition of being bachelor.
But that’s just my take on it
Post # 4
Call me a snob but since falling in love with this man I have no desire to do anything even remotely inappropriate with another guy. I think the last night of freedom was the night before we committed to eachother. The problem is, your worst hell on wheels night would not even come close to the things that can happen at a bachelor party. Nor would we want it too. Women just aren’t built that way. I do appreciate your comment and I am trying to lighten up. I certainly don’t want to deny him a full on party with his friends complete with all kinds of bonding, but stubborn guy that his is, he’s refusing to have a party completely if strippers are not involved because he is too embarrassed to tell his friends my wishes on the matter – which I view as completely understandable. THe worst part about this whole thing is that it has shown me that this man I respected is really a coward. I didn’ think there was anything in the world he wouldn’t stand up to for our happiness. I am disgusted by his lack of spine. I guess i should be glad he’s willing to respect my wishes, but I view him not having a party at all as an affront to me. I am never controlling and have never limited him except on this one issue. I feel so bad at the thought that he would cheat himself out of a party altogether just to save face. His friends are relatively good guys – all married, he would be the last. I don’t know why he thinks they will rib him so badly about this.
Post # 5
This appears to be a double-post so we’re going to close this one, and let the discussion continue on the other topic, which has more responses.
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Thanks and Happy New Year!