(Closed) publice service announcement to all women – bachelor parties

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am so thankful that my FI’s bachelor party will consist of a full day fishing charter and not a strip joint!! 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I mean, this may sound awful, but I know if I ask my guy not to go to a strip club during his 3-day destination bachelor party in New Orleans with 21 rowdy guys in tow, he’s just going to lie to me and still go. I trust him and to me this is his rite of passage. While I’m not super thrilled about strippers (notice how I don’t say ‘other women’) touching him for money, I trust that he’s not going to actually sleep with them.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Gah! Feed the kitty… WHA!?!??

Yeah, I agree with you on this. I just don’t like. I realize that it’s to each their own, but I just don’t like it. Thankfully, the hubs doesn’t like it either, so we agree on this.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

setringa, I definately don’t think you are alone in your feelings. The Bachelor Party/Stripper Debate has been going on for a long time on the boards. Check out some of the comments on this post. I think the boards are pretty much half/half about this issue. It’s up to each bride and her FI to decide what kind of behavior is or isn’t appropriate and what they are comfortable with.

I think you provide some interesting details about the reality of some strip shows. I know that a lot of the graphic physicality you describe only goes on in private parties, where strippers are hired usually independent of the clubs. Movies like “The Goods” tend to portray the strip clubs in a more comedic and outlandish manner, which is really unrealistic. Each state has different laws about what type of services are allowed to take place. Some states allow women to be completely naked and others do not. Some states even have restrictions on the alcohol depending on the level of dancing going on.

I think any bride who is concerned about her FI’s behavior or participation at his bachelor party, should have a serious discussion with him about it. Getting angry and accusatory at your FI for something he hasn’t even done yet is not the way to go.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’ve never been to a strip club, all I have to go on is from movies… like in Knocked Up, where she rubs her butt all over his face and the guy is like, “THAT’S how you get pink eye…” lol… I mean, I don’t want a butt rubbed in my face!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I guess because I have known people that work in strip clubs and I have been in a few so this does not bother me as much…No, my FI will not be going to a strip club, that is not his style or taste…but I don’t think I would tell him he could not go because I would not want him to lie to me…If he goes i will simply have to trust him enough to know do anything crazy that might break us up…..Not all strip clubs are like the one you described and not all men want that sort of “special treatment”.. There is no program to get with, I am sure there are many ladies that know what goes on in a stripe club but what is the point in getting all upset about it…If he wants to go, I would probably go with him or something because I am just that type of chick…but I know he would never go….but if he did mention it I would not blow up on him, we would talk about it…

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Personally, this doesn’t really bother me.  I trust my fiance whole heartedly.  Besides, if he cheats on you with a STRIPPER, is he really worth marrying in the first place.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You may think this sounds strange, but I’m encouraging the people planning the bachelor party to go to a strip club, because I know the other option is hiring strippers to come to the house. Lesser of 2 evils??

BTW – Isn’t it strange that people like having butts rubbed in their face??? EWWW.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with you, that is why my man is NOT allowed to go to strip clubs! He also WILL NOT have anything to do with strip clubs, strippers, or girls in general at his bachelor party. We have had some LONG talks about this! I am not comfortable with him looking at another woman (and being rubbed on, etc) and getting turned on by it. In my mind that is the same as cheating. He understands and wouldn’t be happy if the tables were turned.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

To me, strip clubs are cheating. Seriously, your man getting turned on by a naked girl that is not you? Totally not cool in my book. I am a very open-minded girl, but there is something not right about that.

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not going to get into this hardcore debate again, but I’ll reiterate what I always say which is that strip clubs do not bother me at all.  I trust my FI and don’t care if he goes to a strip club, touching or otherwise.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have to say I am suprised by the comments where people don’t care about their men going to strip clubs cause they trust them.. and yet on a post I read yesterday where the posters fiance cuddled with another woman, a large number of votes called this cheating. Yet as long as it is the womans job to do worse/more to your man,, it becomes OK?

I am confused I guess. . . ?? 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Rebekah: IMO, cuddling/flirting with a woman is an emotional connection.  Strip clubs are not. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

This bothered me only slightly.  My DH went to a strip club as PART of his bachelor party festivities.   Mostly involved bars, etc.   Would I have preferred that he NOT go?  Sure.  But, I trust him and he knew what “line” not to cross.  I am sure he got a lapdance or two.  My brothers were groomsmen and at his party, which added another level of comfort.  But, if I truly thought he would play nasty games with a stripper, I wouldn’t have married him in the first place.

EDIT:  I agree with the PP who said cuddling, etc. is cheating whereas strip club is not.  Cuddling etc is an emotional thing.  Getting a lapdance and watching strippers is not emotional.  If DH went to a strip club every weekend then I would have a problem with it.  I have been with him for almost 9 years.  He’s been to a strip club while I have been with him twice – once for my brother in law’s bachelor party, once for his.  No problem there.

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