- 3 years ago
I hope that you all are having a fantastic Friday!
My question is all about “pulling the trigger”, saying “YES” to that dress and forking over the cash.
The short of it is that I think I’ve found my dress, I found a great sale and I am planning on road tripping it tomorrow to put down the money. This is a cash only sale. Conceptually, I have been excited, like the dress better than any others that I have tried on in the past 6 months, and I feel that I am getting a great deal. When I went to pull the cash from the bank, I freaked out a little. (OK, I’m freaking out a lot). These dresses are stinkin’ expensive! And it feels all the more real when its not just the swipe of a card or the scribble of a check- having the little green bills in my hands is freaking me out, ladies!
Did anyone else get sticker shock when it came time to hand over the money? Are these feelings normal? Am I overthinking things? Am I making a mistake? Help!
The long story- for those of you who are interested. 🙂
I’ve been looking for my gown for 6 months and, without exaggerating, have now tried on nearing 100 dresses.
For those of you who have been to the Beast’s Library at Disneyland, there is a moment on the “Find your Inner Disney Character” quiz that asks if you are more likely to lead with your head or think with your heart. I’m a “head” person, for sure. My wedding is September of 2015, and everyone is encouraging me to order my dress super soon to ensure that it gets here on time. I set a deadline for myself of November 15 to make the decision. This mornng I realized- HOLY CANNOLI! That’s TOMORROW!
With the help of you lovely ladies, I decided to go back to the store where I thought that I found “the dress” and to put it on again, as I was in a rush the first time. I have to say, I think that I may have felt another heart flutter- and that is 2 out of 2 times that it happened, so it has to be more than chance, right? My mom, sister and FI’s sister all agreed that this particular dress is what I’ve been looking for. In that moment, I thought that I was sure, too.
I found a store doing a blow out sale tomorrow and they are willing to order it for me for $2,358- which is $1059.75 LESS than I can find it anywhere else. They orignially said that they can order it in the size that I want, but I guess they talked to Pronovias and were told that they only stock certain sizes. I think I need a 16, but they only stock a 14 or an 18. Also, the nice gal on the phone said that there was some kind of misunderstanding on the phone with Pronovias the first time and so the dress is a bit more than she thought, but the price would only go up $213.77, and she said that she would pay for the tax.
Here is the deal. This sale is CASH ONLY. This afternoon I told my boss that I was going to run to the restroom (we don’t really get breaks where I work) and ran to the bank instead. 20 minutes later, I strolled back to the office that we share and calmly slid into my seat with an envelope in my purse containing $2358. That is when it hit me. $2358 is a LOT OF FREAKING MONEY! Sure, its a great deal, but it is A LOT OF MONEY!
Now, I hope that no one takes this the wrong way by me talking about the dress price. I’m definitely not trying to waive money around because I know that is so super rude, but I think that the reality of watching the banker count out the bills, feeling HIGHLY aware of my surroundings while walking back to the car and having this envelope peek out at me from my purse is really making reality hit and hit hard. I’ve experiences all kinds of feelings in the past hour: guilt, fear, outside pressure, some excitment and questions about my judgment/sanity. I talked to my fiance about how frightening it is to drop this kind of cash on a dress that will be worn for only a few hours, but he keeps reminding me of how important my mom/grandma’s dress is to me (and how sad I am that I can’t wear it), and that someday my dress might mean as much to our kids, so its worth the investment. He has a point, I think? I just don’t know.
What do you think, ladies? Is my anxiety about handing over this money normal? If you have experienced similar feelings, how did you get through? Should I not buy the dress tomorrow?