- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
So my FI said he has concerns about my temper to our counselor and then said he doesn’t really as soon as we were alone (WTH?), there’s a hiatus on sex until the wedding, I haven’t seen any of my friends in over a month, if I dare mention to my mother I’m upset over something she changes the subject and feigns deafness if I bring it up, and I haven’t been able to write for months. Basically, weddingbee is my only outlet.
Wedding dress: My dress is a month late. It was off the rack, just needed a hem, they said it’d be 4 weeks. 8 weeks later… I have to call seven times in three days for them to find the dress and say “oh, yeah, we found it, it’s been finished for a while now.” The salesperson said the dress would be $500, they charged me $670. They said “alterations are free, since you’re buying it from us.” Then they said “Oh, a hem? That’ll be $60.” They were so flaky, I got nervous and bought another dress. Other dress has yet to show (it’s not due to for another 2 weeks.) Other dress is my dream dress. First dress is too small and darker than the (yellow) flower girl dress.
Bridesmaids: MOH was going to do shower/bachelorette party during the week before the wedding. Mom’s friends kept asking if they could help with my shower/bach party. No, MOH is planning it. Two days ago, MOH says “Oh, by the way, I’m not getting to town until the rehearsal.” (This does NOT offend me. It’s just something else I have to rearrange.) BM#2 backed out 12 weeks before the wedding (for perfectly legitimate reasons – her husband got orders, and they are moving in April-May timeframe, plus with two infants I know I wouldn’t want to put them through that much in a short timeframe.) BM#3… I have to e-mail her, FB message her, call her, and have my mom talk to her before she’ll talk to me. Replacement for BM#2 is like a second mother to me – no issues there… except that my mom was banking on her being our DJ, but apparently never asked. Second-Mom is not comfortable with working the new technology for the first time at my wedding. So… No DJ.
Bridesmaids Dresses: BM Dress one – I’ve loved this dress since the first time I stepped foot in David’s Bridal. The BM dress was a no-brainer. Empire waist, straps, flowy, came with a wrap, would flatter any figure. BMs loved it… but all put off ordering it. It was discontinued and the ordering timeframe increased, if the right size/color combo was even available. Onto dress two. From a sleazy Chinese company – thousands of bad reviews, less than 20 positive ones. Not a good idea, but only option… MOH asks if she can have a medieval dress, I say fine since she’s the MOH and will be able to re-wear it. BM#2 (whose idea of modesty is not showing nipples or pubes) backs out – I can give BM#3 free choice of dresses. Except she still doesn’t commit to one, because she didn’t have money budgeted (with several months notice and an offer of financial help from my mom? OK, whatever.) Second Mom (replacement for BM#2) would love an excuse to get a medieval dress. MOH begs and pleads me to persuade BM#3 to wear a medieval dress that MOH can then buy off of BM#3 (uh, what?) I tell mom that all three have free range on styles. She says it’ll ruin my wedding if I do that (in her passive-aggressive way.) Sure, I’d prefer BM#3 in a medieval dress, but she’s had three sets of instructions. I finally tell BM#3 – she says NO PROBLEM, it’s my wedding, she’s not going to make it more stressful. I send Medieval dress option one. No go – doesn’t come in her size. She won’t TELL me her size. OK. Medieval dress option two adjusts from M-XXL. Is this one good? No response, no response, no response for several days… It’s on EBay, and the auction has less than a day left. I call. Is this one good? “Yeah, sure, go ahead and order it. Just be sure to ship it to my place.” Sigh. I bought BM#3’s dress tonight.
Birdseed baggies: So inane, right? I ask a seller who has an ad up for assorted colors of 2×2 organza bags if I can get an assortment in rainbow colors. We talk back and forth for a week (really? These are birdseed bags!) She says she’ll have a special order up for me in the morning… two weeks later… still nothing. I order through another company. THOSE bags haven’t come yet. ARGH! Tablecloths: my mom insists these aren’t the right ones because the first ones were GATHERED.” Uh, mom? Paper tablecloths. Probably not drawstring. Centerpieces: “But I want mirrors under them!” “Mom, how big are these mirrors?” “6×6 inches.” “That’s smaller than most books. It isn’t a logical option” Chairs: “I’ll ask about renting them eventually.” DJ: Can’t find someone who’s willing to announce stuff and switch over one song. Best Man: Probably on lockdown in Cali that weekend. WHY THE HELL IS HE THE BM IF HE DOESN’T THINK HE CAN COME?
Have I mentioned that I hated wedding receptions before all this started?
Thanks for letting me vent.