(Closed) Purity!

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Honey bee

For me, I felt it necessary to save myself for the man who would be my husband, regardless of whether we were technically married yet or not. I don’t regret it one bit. I also see “honoring the marriage bed” as not having an extramarital affair. But again, my opinon. 

I think the answers you get will vary pretty wildly by person. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think purity encompasses a lot more than sexual ethics, and I think that it is sad that oftentimes only one element of purity is emphasized.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mepayne:  Sure 🙂

Purity is the absence of all wickedness and corruption. There are a lot more things in this world other than sex that cause someone to become corrupt.  I think purity is an ideal, and is a good thing to strive for, but is not possible for any human. Everytime we judge someone, or treat someone badly, or lie, or are lustful we are acting in an impure way.

I understand that sexual purity is important, but I think that the other elements of purity make up a much larger part of the definition.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

People tend to put a bigger emphasis on purity than some other sins. Everyone has their struggles. For some it may be sex, but for others it may be lying, jealousy, or any other sin. It really bugs me when people condem one sin more than the others, because everyone has their flaws. I also think that purity is more than just sex. I think it involves masturbation, porn, lust.

Post # 8
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Honey bee

@Follydust321:  Totally agree with you! Sexual purity is just the one brought up most often, which I sort of understand but also don’t. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

While I think it is important to teach kids/youth that God intended sex to be between two married people, and that is very possible to not have sex until you are married (I managed it!) I do think there are also a lot of other issues that are very important too. The Bible is fairly clear on the subject, saying “FLEE sexual immortality” which doesn’t mean toeing the line of “how close can we be physically while technically still being a virgin” but to run the other way when sexually tempted. And some of the examples are literally fleeing, Joseph took off and ran away from Potipher’s wife trying to bed him he ripped his jacket off in her hands. I don’t think it gets much clearer than that.

And yeah, it is stinkin hard, and I don’t think rubbing it in people’s face is EVER the right way to teach anything but it is also vital to not skirt around issues that are VERY black and white in the Bible, which since this is in the context of the “Christian” board I am going to assume is the guideline. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We both did wait till we found the person we knew we would spend the rest of our lives with, but that does not mean that we waited till it was legal. It was important and I am glad that I have only been with my fiance and vise versa we just did not feel the need to wait.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mepayne:  I don’t quite understand it either, but there does seem to be a huge movement right now in a lot of churches to really, and sometimes only, talk about the importance of being sexually pure, especially with teenagers and unmarried adults.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

@Follydust321:  I wish churches would be more open about safe sex too. It could be a hard topic to get into and still be “proper”, but someone has to teach ’em. Probably another topic for another day. 

Sexual purity is important (whatever your definition of that is), but being pure from a lot of other things is just as important. It needs to be emphasized. It’s no (moral, Biblical) good being a virgin if you lie and slander and judge people. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@mepayne:  Good point. One thing that perturbs me about churches in general is that there is so much emphasis on sexual sin, and I feel as though those who aren’t virgins are terribly tainted, which is unfair. Your virginity or “purity” does not define you.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Follydust321:  

Purity is the absence of all wickedness and corruption. There are a lot more things in this world other than sex that cause someone to become corrupt.  I think purity is an ideal, and is a good thing to strive for, but is not possible for any human. Everytime we judge someone, or treat someone badly, or lie, or are lustful we are acting in an impure way.

I understand that sexual purity is important, but I think that the other elements of purity make up a much larger part of the definition.


Awesome.

 

Especially because you said it is an ideal that humans strive to be like. As humans we are falliable. it’s not likely to obtain purity, but we just strive to live as christ like as we can. The bible says there is therefore no condemnation in christ. So if you fall short of the glory, you get forgiveness, not condemnation.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I want to know what happens to sexual purity in the case of divorce? If a little girl is trained through adulthood to save this thing for her husband, how does she feel if she winds up divorced? I know the church doesn’t adovcate that, but of course it happens. So what does she do with all her spirituality and beliefs? How does she move on and have sex with another husband after the divorce? Was the first marriage a mistake? I mean, really, I’d like to know how these purity movements deal with this.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My church held a “Sex Camp”, it was a lock in, and most of the topics were not abstiance is the only answer but diffrent forms of safe sex. My youth paster even put a condm almost all the way up a girls arm. They only talked about abstiance at the end of the night.

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