Post # 1
My planned date is Sept 23, 2011. And we got engaged in dec 2009 Long engagement I Know!! 150 ppl on guest list and that is cutdown. (I have my dress and we already sent STDs). So we booked early 2010 at our venue. Thinking we could afford everything. Now i dont think we can. Fiancial problems hit us hard and now were just getting back on our feet. We decided to cancel the venue we book even if we lose our deposit of 1,000 dollars. We canceled it because I fouind a MUCH more reasonal venue that cost less and you get more so in the end we save money!! We have a few options…. Push back the wedding till Sept 2012 (18 months away) and Go with the second venue. 2. Cut down the guest list dramaticly and do the wedding on a cruiseship then leave for our honeymoon (uncle is paying for the cruise honeymoon). curiseship weddings are really short about 3 hours. 3. Having a ceremony and no reception Maybe go to dinner afterwards. 4. Elope now and party later. Tell me what you would do. I want my dream wedding but we have been engaged for sooo long!!!
Post # 3
I would cut your guest list. You wouldn’t necessarily have to do it on a cruise but that sounds kind of fun. I just know that we had a 2 yr engagement and I really wouldn’t have wanted anything longer.
Post # 4
I wouldnt push it back to 2012, personally I find it hard to plan a wedding if its too far away, and since you’ve been engaged since 2009 I would just cut the guest list
Post # 5
Unfortunately cutting your guest list really isn’t an option since you’ve already sent STD’s. This is why it’s wise to wait until closer to the wedding to send out Save the Dates. Once someone has received an STD you must invite them to the wedding. I would consider having a really casual (and therefore inexpensive) wedding on the date you originally set. Something like a back yard BBQ or something in park.
Post # 6
We have had similar issues, we’ve been engaged for almost 18 months, and it seems like we have planned about 3 weddings LOL. Finally we’re at a point where we’re just ready to be married, and if we keep waiting for life to be 100%, it’ll never happen. We’ve refocused, and really decided that it’s more important to just have a wedding that focuses on us and who we are, rather than the sort of song and dance we were initially focused on.
Now since you’ve sent the STD’s, there isn’t really any coming back from that. I think the only option you could possibly do is just elope and have a party with all the STD people later, but that’s not really saving you any money since you’ll still have to cover all the basics and thats where the most money goes.
You also really can’t invite people only to the ceremony, you should at least serve punch and cake if it’s at an in-between meal time 🙂