Post # 1
The other day I was just thinking about the “push present” (a husband getting his wife something after the birth of their baby). I had previously thought this was a really nice sentiment, but now that I am nearing my due date (yikes!!) I realize I don’t particularly care if he gets me anything. His support & understanding during the pregnancy and being a great partner are all I really need. And of course making me feel like I am a goddess after the birth will be nice too 🙂 but he doesn’t need to give me anything to convey that!
just a random musing…thoughts?
Post # 3
Im obviously not preggo, but I have always liked the sentiment of having something to commemorate the birth of a child.
Similar to a wedding present from each other, I think it should be a keepsake, not just a present because you pushed a kid out. Like you said, if that was all the present was, then I would rather just having a supporting husband.
Post # 4
I thought it would be nice. I told him I was interested in one. I got him a gift, but he didn’t get me one 🙁 Whatever. I was bummed, but we did get a beautiful birth experience and a beautiful daughter out of the deal.
Post # 5
I think the our society is way too materialistic and I think it’s crazy how many events gifts are now expected for!
Both the father and the mother are getting the most beautiful gift that day I don’t understand why anything else is necessary!
Post # 6
This is just my point of view, so please don’t start throwing tomatoes at me!
I always thought that having a baby was about two people wanting to start a family, raise a child…bring a child into this world. That seems pretty big to me. I know I will be carrying the baby for nine months and giving birth, but FI will help throughout the pregnancy and be up with me at 3am changing dirty diapers once the baby is here.
What I am trying to say is the FI and I are partners. We will both work hard to bring a child into this world and raise a healthy, happy child. I don’t want or expect FI to give me a diamond tennis bracelet (or something else) as a pat on the back for giving birth to his child! I see it as an honor and big responsibility to carry OUR child. I think giving birth to a beautiful baby is the best present I could ever receive.
Like I said before this is just my 2 cents.
Post # 7
I’d never even heard of this until recently…and of course, the idea is appealing. Who doesn’t like presents? 🙂 But I definitely don’t NEED anything, and I wouldn’t be upset if he didn’t get me anything. Although, @Mrs.DG, I would be bummed as well if I got HIM something and he didn’t get me anything.
Post # 8
I’d want something sentimental…like something with the birth month of the child.I wouldn’t say it’s “important”, but rather that it’s a nice memento.
My dad would gift my mom charms throughout their life together. Know what’s on that charm bracelet? Little baby boots that he gave her when I was born. A sapphire charm when my brother was born. She still cherishes it all. I wouldn’t say that’s materialistic, but meaningful. And it’s not like he spent a few grand on those charms, either, but you could argue they were push presents for the sheer fact they were given to her because we were born.
Post # 9
I don’t necessarily need diamonds, but something with meaning would be nice. Something heartfelt. I think it’s a sweet sentiment when done just out of the kindness of their hearts, and not because they feel a need to do it.
Post # 10
@Mrs. DG: I thought I would feel the same way! I did want a wedding present (Even though I *shouldn’t* need one since the marriage was what was important) so I was surprised the other day when I realized I didn’t really care about a push present. I don’t think it is materialistic or wrong at all to feel like you want one, why is it any different than wanting a birthday present (which I do)?
Post # 11
@Sunchick19: I’m the opposite. I don’t want a wedding present – it seems kind of weird since he got my rings for me. It’s different than your birthday because on your wedding day you’re usually having a celebration and you get gifts from your guests. It’s his day too so why would he give you a gift? Just seems odd to me.
However I’d want a present for the birth of my first child. Something like a locket or some nice piece of jewelry to commemorate the occasion.
Post # 12
This is just my opinion. While I LOVE presents, I think the push present is a little barbaric. To me it seems like “Way to go, brood mare, for popping out another kid.” And while a little memento would be ok, I think the over the top diamond push presents are too much. The birth of your child should be about the two of you, bringing life into the world. And I feel like the push present cheapens that.
Just my opinion!
ETA: My brother got my SIL a push present that was actually really sweet, he booked a photography session for a month after my nephew was born and now they have some great first family pictures.
Post # 13
I didn’t expect anything at all but my husband did surprise me with a pair of diamond earrings… He had never even heard of a “push present” (I asked him) but just wanted to get me something nice. I thought it was really sweet 🙂
Post # 14
I have always heard them called baby baubles! Push present sounds gross lol
Post # 15
ejs kind of explained the way I feel about this. I wasn’t looking for something big and blingy, just something that could memorialize the event… that’s why I got him a Flip HD Ultra camera. Now we have all these great videos of Ceci. For me, a birthstone charm or some other sentimental trinket would have done the trick!
Post # 16
I didn’t get a push present, but I like the idea of a commemoration present of some kind; my dad got my mom a ring with all of her kids’ birthstones in it when my youngest sister was born, and I think something like that would be nice. Maybe I’ll hint to the hubby that I would like something like that for Christmas. 🙂
Btw, I really prefer the term “baby baubles.” I find “push present” to be kinda… vulgar, lol.