Push Presents!?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s gift grabby to me. You’re doing something women have been doing for thousands of years. You don’t need a reward for birthing your child. The child should be reward enough.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t agree with push presents. My push present is my baby.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

A friend of mine got a Chanel purse as a push present. Seriously?! I don’t have a problem with push presents in general, but come on now. I just think that is a little excessive

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Heaven’s no! Unless you count the pint of real ale that my ex-husband managed to carry in his pocket for the 8 mile two bus journey to the hospital where I’d just had our first son. He was convinced that I wouldn’t need flowers or diamonds when I could have had beer!

But yes, I also agree that it is becoming yet another way to relieve people of their money at an already expensive time.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Kandiss16:  Yes, DH plans on getting me one.  He brought it up, not me so who am I to say no?!  He told me to start picking things out and that I could “make it a good one” since it will double as our first anniversary gift!  I’m thinking of a right hand ring or second wedding band with baby’s birth stone.  Baby is due early March, though so I might have to wait to get it if I go the birthstone route, in case baby comes in February instead!

 

 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it’s almost demeaning to get a push present. I’m definitely not a fan.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh my gosh, I had not heard of them. I don’t reeeally think you deserve a present for something that was your choice to endure.. Though flowers from the father/your partner could be expected.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Kandiss16:  I think they are the stupidest thing out there. Before I expressed my views on them, now-DH said that he would buy me diamond earings “maybe when we had a kid or something”. His sister got jewelry for her kid (not a typical push present) and his coworkers’ wives got push presents, so he thought it was normal. I still think it is stupid, but I love diamonds and will gladly accept them 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Kandiss16:  I know I will be getting one, but here’s why.

On our honeymoon, we were at a jewelry store. There was a great deal where if you bought these great Tanzanite earrings, you got the matching necklace for free (Also, May cruises are AWESOME).

They were more than the cash I had on me, so I asked DH to stick them on the card, and I’d pay him back later. After we left, he grabbed the bag and went “This is going to be your push present when you bear my child. So it’s mine until I see some progeny.”

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry to sound greedy but I would like a push present. I dont know how many of you have been pregnant before but it is not an easy job (and I am only done with the first half!)

My husband wanted to get me an anniversary band for our first anniversary (I didnt think I would get one until 5!) but we decided to keep the money in the bank as we were newly pregnant. Because we didnt get the anniversary band, I decided I wanted a garnet band (our son’s birthstone) It is actually cheaper than a diamond band so I guess he get’s off easy lol we also share all of our finances so it’s a gift from both I guess.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Most of my friends get them so I’m assuming DH will get me something when the time comes. I think jewelry to commemorate the event is nice.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Kandiss16:  I’m not sure how I feel about them. Ask me again when/if I get pregnant. 😉

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Kandiss16:  Well FH got me flowers, which is pretty normal and not what I would consider a ‘push present’. A few of my friends gave me baby gifts that had a little something for me too (eg- some nice bubble bath to help me relax or a nursing product they had found useful) but I don’t think they were push presents either. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

We all express love differently (languages of love) and if as a couple, one of your languages is receiving gifts – then I think it makes perfect sense. 

 I think that the gifts should be somewhat targeted around the actuality of giving birth… like a necklace with your child’s name engraved or a massage, pampering of sorts after your body just went through labour. 

Gifts aren’t as important to me, so I wouldn’t expect it or feel like I needed it. However any act of love and appreciation is always welcome. 

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