Post # 1
Is anyone else getting a push gift? Does your SO/spouse even know what it is?! haha
I asked Darling Husband about it a couple months ago and said I wanted one. Since we got our tax return and will have a little left over after paying for some stuff, we will have the budget for it.
And I am terrible at allowing surprises lol so I am basically telling him what I want.
But now I can’t decide… I said I wanted either a cute, high-quality (think Athleta or Boden), supportive, summer-y dress that is conducive to breastfeeding and will hide a post-baby tummy well, OR a new pair of running shoes because I plan to run the first moment I can! Since the dress I have been eyeing is $90 and the shoes I want are $130, I know I can’t have both.
What did you get, or do you know if/what you will get? What do you think about push gifts in general?
Post # 3
We were just talking about this because he was asking me if he should get me something. We’ve had friends get diamond rings as push presents. I’m sure I could get something if I really wanted to, but my husband doesn’t really tell me what I can and can’t buy, and he’s also not that great with gifts, so I’d basically be picking myself out something for going through labor and I don’t necessarily feel the need to do that. If he were really going to get me a push present I’d want it to be something he did all on his own. Does that make sense? I told him not to worry about it but that flowers and a kiss would be nice 🙂
Post # 4
Not pregnant, but I’ve thought about it and I think I want a pink moissy ring if its a girl, and a blue moissy ring if its a boy! =D
Post # 5
I have nothing against people who do get them but I don’t think it’s necessary. I would feel silly receiving a gift for having a baby. Having a baby is a big enough gift and costs enough money and why the hell do I deserve a diamond ring for pushing out OUR child? Just my opinion though 🙂
Post # 6
@theredhead: I think it’s more of a token of appreciation. The man kinda just sits back and reaps all of the benefits while the women does virtually everything. While I agree that push gifts aren’t necessary, I do think they’re nice. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant.
Post # 7
I am getting one and I embrace it. I am also due on mother’s day so it hopefully is for that as well. I am getting a den which I assumed was my gift and am super happy about but Darling Husband also said he wants to get me a sapphire ring to represent our little boy. (He would have purchased whatever piece of jewelery I told him I wanted.) He is a good man!
Post # 8
@AvantLaLettre: I totally agree. When our time comes I’ll probably make him aware of the fact that “push gifts” exist (he’ll have no clue), but I won’t tell him what to get me. That’s something that should come from the heart.
Post # 9
@pinkshoes: That is seriously cute!
Post # 10
I really want birthstone stacking rings of mine, my husband, and baby. I think that birthstone stacking rings are so cute.
Post # 11
i remember my sister getting a diamond band for the birth of her first son and my SIL getting a diamond necklace when she had her 1st
i think a summer dress or running shoes is a bit silly when you consider the symbolism on why you are getting the gift
Post # 12
@UpstateCait: I agree, I think something small would be sweet! One of the PP’s referenced getting a diamond ring and I watched a show one day on TLC or something where one woman got a new car from her husband. I think it’s those types of push presents that make me really confused and a bit angry! I have always felt awkward receiving gifts for any occasion so maybe thats why I am just so uncomfortable with the whole idea of a push present.
Post # 13
@pinkshoes: That is so cute!
I have actually been thinking about this alot lately when I realized I love three stone rings! At first I thought an OEC moissy ring. But now for a push present I would want a three stone diamond ring with probably round stones – To stand for Mommy, Daddy & Baby! I might get them in color, like champagne diamonds!
I am not TTC or pregnant. LOL
But the rings I looked at only run at 250-300 dollars. So it wouldn’t be a HUGE purchase for someone who just had a baby.
Post # 14
@miss-spunkin: My hubby was planning on buying me a second band for my e-ring and wedding set, but the other day I found I piece of furniture I just could not forget about, so I am getting that instead. I know a piece of furniture is kind of a weird thing to get, but we couldn’t afford it AND the diamond ring.
Post # 15
@theredhead: I have really hated being pregnant and struggled with this pregnancy a lot. My husband has been a huge support and given lots of massages, but I do feel like for many women it honestly is it a lot of work having a child, I really appreciate when he thanks me for going through this for us. It means a lot and makes it seem a lot more worth it 🙂 I guess I wouldn’t say it’s necessary and I wouldn’t be mad if I didn’t get a gift, but I definitely appreciate feeling appreciated.
@eloping: Must be my practical side. I actually gaped when AvantLaLettre said her friends got a diamond ring, then read the rest of pp’s and many others did as well. I didn’t know that was a “traditional” push gift was sentimental or jewelry. I figured I want something that is going to make me feel good about myself, or something I’ll actually use/really appreciate as opposed to something of sentiment. I am honestly perfectly content with my diamond wedding ring and don’t want another one.
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: that’s a cute idea 🙂
@MissDareDevil: haha! See, I don’t find that weird. Why not ask for something you really want?
I guess I’m just too practical lol 🙂
ETA: oh gosh I must sound totally selfish. I really am fine with no gift at all 🙂 I just wanted to hear more of what other people thought of them. I honestly hadn’t heard about them until I was pregnant and another pregnant friend brought it up. My husband has been so great dealing with me these last nine months, it really is gift enough for me 🙂
Post # 16
I don’t like the idea of them to be honest. When I do get pregnant the best gift my FH can give me is to be a great father to our children.