Post # 1
In reality we never had an official date set but were originally hoping to get married May 2013, then we pushed it back to October 2013 now it’s clear that isn’t going to happen either. We were both married before and he’s Catholic so we are waiting for our first marriages to be annulled because it’s important to him to try and get married in the church. It took him forever to write his narrative and we finally got them submitted May 2012 (we’ve been engaged since May 2010). Originally we were told we would have a decision in a year but when I inquiried yesterday I was told that the process now takes at least a year and a half. We live together so it’s not like getting married will change much but it’s important to me and I’ve been waiting so long. I’m ready to get this show on the road and celebrate! Now I’m hoping for May 2014 but to be honest, I’m not holding my breath.
Post # 3
I’m sorry to hear that :(. We are getting annulments, too, but it’s the short version. If we had to go through the long versions, I’m not sure that we’d be getting married in the church. We would most likely get a convalidation later.
Have you discussed this idea with your FI?
Post # 4
We talked about it briefly but I don’t think he would agree to that because it still wouldn’t be actually getting married in the church. My best friend is getting married outside the Catholic church and will get a convalidation after her annulment goes through and my FI didn’t understand why they didn’t just wait. I totally understand that this is very important to him and his faith…I’m just a little sad because I want to make it official. Seriously, how many other people are engaged for 3 years and still don’t have a date set?!?
Post # 5
Could you not get legally married in a wedding somewhere, and then get married in the Catholic church by yourselves at a later date?
My friend was married in the Catholic church, and from what it sounded like they are two separate ceremonies? Or can be?
I would be really frustrated!