Pushing back wedding date due to school

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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7179 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@wichitastatecheerleader:  I say get married now!  As long as getting married doesn’t prevent you from finishing up your career goals, part of marriage is the support.  The only other factor would be if you’d feel distracted in the year of internship and feel it would take away from the time you’d devote or want to devote to your husband… but, honestly, that’s LIFE (distracting!).

Post # 5
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239 posts
Helper bee

I know how you feel. I’ve also been waiting to finish school but getting married can always wait. Besides there isn’t an “age” requirement for when to get married? I couldn’t imagine trying to finish school and plan a wedding at the sametime too stressful unless your willing to do that then go for it.

Post # 6
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@wichitastatecheerleader:  I’m not clear on what happened here… you did get an internship you weren’t expecting, and so have another year in school and have to push the wedding back? Or you didn’t get an internship and so have another year of school? It’s a little confusing.

Either way… I think it comes down to why you originally didn’t want to get married till you were done with school. If you still feel those are valid reasons, then push it back. If you don’t, go ahead and get married.

In general I think it’s a good idea to be out of school before marriage, but doctorate level grad work or going back to school after some time out are a little different than being a married undergrad, you know? Marriage is about taking transitions together, and you’re at the end of a VERY long road of hard work, so getting married and then making the transition from student to career together with him supporting you seems just as reasonable as waiting and doing it all at once.

Post # 7
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t see any reason to push it back. We’re getting married right before I start graduate school. I couldn’t think of any reason not to.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@wichitastatecheerleader:  Also, there’s no guarantee that the minute you get your Ph.D you will get a job… but I am sure I don’t have to tell you that.  I say just move forward as you had planned and don’t keep putting it off.

Post # 11
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@wichitastatecheerleader:  What will you be doing for the next year while you wait to reapply?

I would go ahead and get married, in your shoes. I know feeling “supported” can be a weird situation (I’m back in school pursuing my masters and we’re moving states for my fiance’s job shortly after the wedding, so there is likely going to be a period where I’m a fulltime student and that is going to be strange!) but if the alternative is waiting two years for no other reason… 

Post # 12
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Newbee

WSU?! Ugh…jk former CU cheer girl here!

 

I would get married.  I know how you feel…I am getting married one month before I graduate.  But if you wait for everything to be perfectly planned out and set in stone before you are married…you may never get married!  Maybe it is a blessing since you will be able to plan the wedding from a shorter distance away too.

 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m getting married six weeks after finishing my undergrad and just before starting Master’s, so I would be biased towards not waiting, especially if you have a year more or less free to organize it all. Perhaps being married at the time of doing long distance would keep you “closer” than you would be anyway.

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