Post # 1
Ok here goes. My fiance and I were looking at venues recently and we found our perfect one! But we’ve been discussing how we’re going to go about planning our wedding for next September whilst I am finishing my final year of college. I want to do as best I can and FI doesn’t want me to neglect my courses and finals, and I don’t want to neglect planning/have a nervous breakdown. So we decided to push our wedding back to May 2014. (PS we have pushed it back once already from summer 2013, so this is a double low- to do with college again)
But now I am really sad. We still plan to live together after I graduate, and we’ll hopefully both be working too. But it’s the thought that it’s so far away, especially as we’re long distance at the moment. I have bought my dress and hate the thought of it just sitting there gathering dust.
Is there anything we can do to help us stay positive for the next two years until we do get married? I feel like it was something to thrive on and look forward to but now it’s all messed up.
Vent over, thanks for reading bees <3
Post # 3
I don’t know about you, but I’m working on my last semester right now and I’m actually glad to have a lot of time to plan. We’re also aiming for a May 2014 wedding right now, but we have no money saved and very little expendable cash at the moment. I am also a massive procrastinator, so I know I’ll still end up having the same last-minute panic that many brides have. It is different though, since you’re in a long distance relationship. >_<
You could always try your dress on so it doesn’t get lonely, haha. ;D It’s still something to look forward to and I’m sure it’ll be here before you know it!
Post # 4
Is this a quiet time for you with school right now? I don’t know about you, but when I have down time in my life it makes me obsess about all of the things I cannot do right this minute that I really want to do but must wait (Ex: buy a home with FI, have children…) My experience is that the fall semester was always the toughest for me, IDK why because I would take summer classes also. I think it had to do with all of the holidays and new year stuff. What I’m getting at is that spring 2013 will be here before you know it- and then you will just have one year to plan. two years isn’t that long out to book a venue or start planning. You can really take your time and decide on one thing a month. Also, have you had engagement pictures taken? As a student, I assume you are on a tight budget as I was. It doesn’t have to expensive. Get a friend/family to follow you to your favorite spot or a day trip and take lots of great pics. Maybe start a scrap book of your engagement. I got my FI involved, and while he isn’t the crafty type (AT ALL lol)he has gotten into it. As for your dress, I think I wouldn’t try it on for like another year- so when you do you can get that “fall in love” feeling all over again 🙂
Post # 5
Hi new month twin! 🙂 don’t feel to bad it will fly by. We might have to bump ours back too. We will know by the end of this semester if it’s feasible or not. ( he’s doing doctorate work, while I’m doing masters )
Post # 6
Hi! Although it’s ssd for you, I’m in a similar situation so it’s nice to be able to learn from eachother.
Although we’re not engaged yet, we always planned to get married in 2012. Obviously not happening now since he delayed proposing for financial reasons. Months ago we picked a day in October 2013 but now we’re thinking of moving interstate and delaying the wedding til around March 2014. That’s a 2 year delay for me. I know I’m not as close as you were to it happening so you’re probably much more disappointed than me, but here’s some of the things I’ve been telling myself to help me get over delaying again.
We can enjoy being engaged and not have to start wedding planning while we’re going through a stressful move (or finishing study for you).
More time to save and therefore we’ll be able to afford more of the things we want when the time comes.
When the time comes to start planning I’ll be able to devote more time to it rather than trying to do too many things at once (although knowing me that might happen anyway!).
Being able to plan ahead will give us a better chance of getting the venue etc that might otherwise be booked up.
With more notice, there’s a better chance loved ones will be able to travel from interstate/overseas to be there on the day.
Might seem realy superficial, but they’re the things keeping me going right now. I hope some of it might ring true for you too.
Post # 7
aw I’m sorry. My fiance walked out on me on our wedding day 2 years ago and my gorgeous gown has been lying waiting to be worn ever since so I feel your pain. Luckily I’m engaged again so I don’t have to wait much longer.
All you could maybe do is gather your ideas together, start a scrap book and get a feel for what you’ like.
I knwo it’s hard but just think it gives you longer to make sure your day is totally perfect 🙂 xx
Post # 8
@CinderellaSoon: Lol I wish! It’s actually going to be the busiest time of my college career at the moment, and also I joined a society committee so I’ll be involved in organising all the social events. And I work once a week too at a supermarket.
Basically things are set up to be really tough, and my fiance works away so we won’t see each other as much this year.
Post # 9
I would honestly advocate to sticking to your original plans. Getting married after school is going to be tougher than you imagine…There’s usually more to do after school…& think, if you’re both out of work after school how this would affect your planning…putting it off doesn’t seem like the best idea to me…especially if he’s away for this year…that means you’ll have more time to plan now, and more time to spend with him later…Your wedding doesn’t have to be hard to plan/with lots of details..it’s only as complicated as you make it…I wish you a lot of luck..it’s a hard decision either way!
Post # 10
@mindyfaith: My fiance is already working, it will only be me looking for a job.
Thanks for all the advice so far, you’ve all been great!