- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I have been friends with “L” for a bout 6 years now (since high school.) We have has periods where we have been really close and those where we just speak every now and then. I have been engaged since April and knew right away who I wanted my bridesmaids to be but I JUST, on Sunday, put in the save the date with our venue. For the past couple weeks L has been offering unsolicited help and advice. She has asked a couple times who the bridesmaids are going to be, but since we hadn’t chosen a venue I just told her that we hadn’t really made any final selections or asked anyone yet. Now she is trying to offer to go look at bridesmaids dresses with me. She hasn’t come flat out and said it, but I feel like she is trying to guilt me into making her a bridesmaid. I always get put in these positons and I don’t know the best way to let her know that while she is a dear friend she will not be in our wedding. My fiance and I both have sisters and I have 3 other girls that I am very close with who will be my bridesmaids. Have any of you dealt with a similar situation? How can I let her know without being rude?