Post # 1
I have 2 moms who come to my church who are insisting that i use their daughters as my flower girls… I have already chosen my flower girls .I have 3 FGs and I really only wanted 2 but added one more because FI really wanted to include her. These two mom are being so pushy about this and their daughters are too young IMO. I wanted to only use FGs who are 5yrs old or older. Their daughters are both 3yrs old and are very temperamental. I teach a kids class at churchs so i feel close to all of them, but decided to use other girls from outside the church and only picked one from the church. Everytime I get to church I actually try to avoid those two moms because from the moment they see me all they talk about is whether they daughters have made the cut. Last week one of them sent the daughter to say “Mommy says If I dont get to be your flower girl she wont come to your wedding”? I find this so bizarre!! I’m dreading seeing them this weekend.
Post # 3
🙁 That’s a really hard situation to be in and it’s really not cool of those mothers to bring their kids into it!
You have to be honest! “_____ said the other day if she wasn’t in the wedding you wouldn’t attend? I really hope that’s no the case as we’d love to have you each there as guests but FI and I have some family members who have been asked already. I hope you understand!
What an akward position to put you in!! I bet if you tell them what the little girl said her cheeks would turn bright red!
Post # 4
Count yourself lucky that they won’t go to your wedding if you won’t let them be a flowergirl. We have a cousin who we swore sent their 3 kids to our wedding in jeans out of spite because we chose different little cousins as the ring bearer and flowergirl. Mind you, these kids almost NEVER wear jeans. It still bothers me to this day seeing them in the front of our family photo and I’m not going to lie, I wouldn’t have minded if they kept their jeans-wearing selves at home. They are actually missing my baby shower this weekend and I was like, oh darn! 😉
Post # 5
When the kids mention it, I would ignore it. When the moms bring it up, I would just say, “We’ve actually decided not to have a flower girl, but can’t have fun with you all at the reception!” If they decide not to come, then that’s really immature, and you probably don’t need/want them there anyway.
Post # 6
I meant “can’t WAIT to have fun . . .”