Pushy Sister in Law

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Hostess
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

So presumably she’s at least 35? 

She needs to grow up, end of story.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

bridegirl007:  Don’t try to find another position for her, then she’ll feel like she can weezel her way into situations in the future.  DH told her no, leave it at that! 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

bridegirl007:  Don’t try to find another position for her, then she’ll feel like she can weezel her way into situations in the future.  Your FH told her no to being the best man, leave it at that, he handled it because it was her sister.  If your mom keeps getting phone calls tell your mom to pass along the fact that that decision isn’t up to her!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

bridegirl007:  I had my younger sister as my MOH and then 3 friends as BMs. But my older sister, and my DH’s older sister were not bridesmaids. We did, however, ask them to do special readings at our wedding. Also, their kids made up the flower girl and ring bearer roles. I think, deep down, they wanted to be BMs, but the reading made them feel special and they handled it maturely. Would you be willing to let her do a reading at your wedding?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If your FI wanted her- that would be one thing.  She needs to get over it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If it were farther out and you were still putting things together, I might suggest asking her to do a reading or do the guest book/programs, or something like that. But at this point, I’d just leave it alone. She’s an adult. Your fiance handled things on his end (which is proper, since she’s his relative). If it comes up, I’d be nice but firm and bried and then change the topic.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

She needs to realize that ship has sailed. Your FI should talk to his mom and tell her to drop it. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I don’t know if the “welcome to the family” speech is something ordinarily done where you’re from but if she’s his only sibling that might be an idea of something she could do. Although depending how she’s acting towards you and your fiance you may not want her speaking about you at your wedding. Good Luck!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

You can have her do a special reading, but I would do it only if I feel comfortable with it, not under any type of pressure.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

the entitlement of some people never ceases to amaze me. as PP said – that ship has sailed. only now after months of planning does she want to be a BM? where does she think she can get a dress in a month? plus like another PP said, if you and your FI wanted her to be in the party you would of asked her at the beginning. shes feeling left out and pouting. at this point i would just ignore her and continue planning for your wedding. change the topic if she brings it up or firmly shut her down. either way, she’ll continue to pout/sulk and she’ll have to grow up and move on.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t believe in rewarding bad behavior. I would change nothing.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I also don’t think you should include her at this point, but I take a bit of offense at her being referred to as “only” his half sister. I have two half sisters who are ten years younger than me and they are every bit as much flesh and blood to me as they are to each other. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  jillbean1217.
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