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@Mrs.Ramos2b: You can direct your dress appointment as you like, especially at DB since they usually split a consultant between 2 girls. I'd let her know that you're rather modest and you'd like your mom in the room to help you. You can always bring a pashmina or try on a few of their bolero jackets as well for when you find a gown you like enough to step out and show the rest of the group. You absolutely do not have to let a stranger into your room with you if you're not comfortable.
And I'm sure you know this, but I can bet that you are really the only person who notices it to such an extent. Your FI honestly means it when he says he doesn't care. He loves you! All of you :-) That's scars, warts, hairy legs when you forget to shave, and all. :-) I totally understand how it feels to be self-conscious, but I just wanted to let you know that it's not the end of the world, and you do not need to be ashamed at all.
I hope that you go dress shopping with your loved ones. And have fun!
You can certainly have someone else zip up your dresses there...
So you know, most DB dressing rooms don't have mirrors... So you have to go out of the room if you want to look at yourself :) But, I agree, I'm sure no one else notices it as much as you do! And boleros are a great option :)
Thank you for your help! 
And yes I will pick out a jacket so I can go out in my dress and be seen.
@Jenlon: Thanks for the heads up on the mirrors. I hope its true that no one else really notices my back problem.
I'm using Bio-oil and it's making a bit of a difference to my acne scars on my face - reasoably priced as well, and available at the chemist. And don't worry - it's true - no one notices half the things we worry about our bodies!
@Mrs.Ramos2b: Hi sweetie! I was just wondering if you were using any products or anything for your back now? There are some inexpensive products you could purchase at a drugstore like CVS or something that might be able to help with your back....
I sometimes have a problem with acne on my back, and I use a Neutrogena spray - I think it's called clear body spray. I put it on after my shower, and I try to keep my hair/styling products off my skin. It seems to work pretty well after a couple of weeks. Hope something works for you - I'm sure no one notices it as much as you. Good luck!
I had/have the same problem, I basically had to just suck it up and deal with it, it sucked. I so badly want to wear my hair up on my wedding day I am trying so so hard to get my back clear but who knows what it will be like on the day of. Even if it does end up clear I will still have the scars, so I am wearing a veil.
I can't offer much other than I know how you feel.
@Mrs.Ramos2b: After some good advice by other PPs and seeing that you can't afford a trip to the drerm right now, I just wanted to give a few extra tips. Take them if you like.
Some of the problem could be due to the sprays and chemicals from your shampoos and hair products and body sprays. I'd try to wash your body AFTER you've shampooed, conditioned, and rinsed your hair so that none of the run-off settles on your skin.
Also, sleep with your hair pulled back into a braid or pigtails on the side (if your hair isn't super long) to keep that extra oil off of your skin. Wash and switch pillow cases and sheets often, and sleep in a clean shirt each night. More laundry, yes, but it will help keep your skin as clean as possible to keep extra dirt and oils off of it as much as possible. These are just a few things that helped me out :-)
I don't know if its available in the US but try rescue oil. Its is like Bio oil but costs less and works brilliantly I have a c section scar and its faded loads due to this oil, my sister used it for stretch marks too,
When i went dress shopping they wouldnt let my friend zip me up the first shop i looked in I was really uncomfortable being half naked in a dressing room with an extremely rude woman I understand why your worried
@Mrs.Ramos2b: I understand how you feel about your scars, but please don't deprive yourself of one of the most exciting experiences in a girl's life-trying on wedding dresses! You deserve it!
I have the same problem. I've had it since I was in middle school :(
Mine has sure cleared up over the years, but it could always be better...I was embarrassed to have tried on wedding dresses because when I did try dresses on the acne bumps were very bright and red and I didn't feel like standing on a pedestal anymore.
But, I did eventually find the dress of my dreams that has off-the-shoulder lace sleeves and I felt SO comfortable and the dress hides what I want, but still shows enough. If the acne don't heal up or improve in time, I'd say find a gown that makes you feel comfortable AND beautiful. The worst thing is constantly worrying about what is "showing" and I sure don't want to feel that way on our wedding day.
I don't know what your style/taste is in wedding gowns, but sleeves and high necklines are making a huge comeback in the wedding dress industry. The more COMFORTABLE you are, the better and more beautiful you will feel--and it will show in your face and of course in your photos. And that doesn't always mean covering your whole body. Best wishes! :)
P.S. Proactive body wash, body lotion, and body pads have really improved my back, chest, and shoulder acne. Also, don't exfoliate the areas that have acne because it will only irritate your existing acne. Hope that was some help to you!
@Cariad: Thank you, I have tried bio oil on my face and I did not notice much difference. Maybe I gave up too soon?!
@AshleyR83: Currently I am not using any products for my back. I have seen some creams for scars at drugstores, but I dunno how hopeful I am that they'd work. I have a CVS near me so i'll go checkout what they have. Thank you. Do you or anyone else know if Vitamin E will work on old scars?
I have the same exact problem! I never broke out on my face.. everything went to my back.. the marks have been there for YEARS AND YEARS. My derm told me to just give it time :-/. To your question now, yes, just tell your consultant that you would prefer have someone else see you naked lol
@Ms. Dove: Oh really, hmmmm I have not seen it before, but I will go check it out. A spray sounds good, especially since it'd be much easier to apply on my back. And yes, I feel like hair conditioner makes me break out and lately I have not used conditioner on my hair, I just apply a small amount of hair oil when I'm out the shower. Thanks!
@Genuine513: Thanks, and yes it does suck, but like other people have said...hopefully no one else notices our problem like we do.
@NDBee: Thank you very much for your tips. I will try them out and hope they help at least a bit. 
@Mrs.Ramos2b: I know this is just a temp fix, but I saw something on tv.. there was this old woman who put make up on her legs for spider veins.. she just rubbed it in and it concealed.. maybe you could look into some waterproof type make up?
almost mrs: Hmm, I have never heard of it. I will keep an eye out for it when I go to the stores. Thanx.
Oh wow, sorry to hear that. I will have to ask if it is fine if someone else can do it before I try anything on.
nickie362: Thank you. Your right! My acne scars can't and won't stop me from trying on wedding dresses.
@KnisleyToBee: Thank you, you did help. I have seen some very pretty wedding dresses with sleeves and it would be better if my dream dress turned out to have sleeves because I wouldnt have to wear anything to cover it up. And yes I have to feel confident that day cause otherwise it will show in my pictures and I don't want to look at my pictures and remember how worried I was about my acne scars. Glad your dream dress has sleeves and makes you feel comfortable and at the same time beautiful. Hope I find one that will make me feel the same!
MrsNeutrino:Oh really, well at least you face is clear. I did go to the dermo. once when I had insurance and he gave me some wash and a cream for the scars. They worked really well, but then I ran out =( and I did not have insurance anymore and it was going to cost me a lot so I did not get it again. And yes i will tell them lol.
Thanx. I have thought about makeup as a last resource if nothing else workes. I have actually used makeup before on my back, a few years ago when I graduated from high school I had bought a dress for graduation that showed some of my acne scars. It worked alright but it would of worked better if, like you said, it were water poof.
@Mrs.Ramos2b: Hopefully they do help! The hair oil you use may be finding its way to your skin. If those tips help a bit, inn that last month before the wedding, try pulling your hair up the whole time and making sure to always sleep in a clean shirt. A month can do great things :-)
If you plan to go the makeup route, perhaps that tattoo cover makeup would work well...nothing is supposed to show through that and I would imagine it's made to not rub off at all until properly washed off.
@Mrs.Ramos2b: You should definitely try to use something! You could get mederma (they sell it at CVS). You could also spray tan, have you considered that? It may help in covering up the scars.
I have a suggestion for your wedding day... if you're planning on having air brush makeup, you could ask her to spray your back, too. I had been attacked my mosquitos around my wedding, and the makeup artist just sprayed them for me.
@MrsNeutrino: As much as I hate tanning beds, I have to agree with you there! I was 22 when I was due to be a bm, wearing a strapless dress for the first time. My back had been so bad I had never even worn anything without sleeves before then!
I tanned in the hopes that it would hide the scars and any new spots somewhat (I am naturally pasty white). I had two short sessions (3-5 mins) per week for six weeks leading up to the wedding.
It covered enough for me to feel confident with people seeing me all day, and I haven't had any problem wearing straps/strapless since... though I think it was more my confidence that was fixed, rather than my skin:D
I'd never use a tanning bed again, but I'm glad I made that decision back then.
Wondering if you've tried dresses on yet. I'm *very* sensitive about the amount of moles and scars (from their removal) on my back. Ironically, I ended up in a dress that shows my back, but has feathery type things on the back- so attention would be drawn totally away from my skin!
When I tried on my dress, my MOH and the sales rep were in the room with me, which had mirrors, but every store may be different. You're going to need help getting the dresses on/zipping them up-if you're not comfortable with the sales rep in the room for that, I'm sure they'd respect if you ask if your Mom can help instead. Just remember- the women who work in the bridal stores have seen ALL sort of bodies- sort of like doctors, in a way.
what about a higher, corset back. you can get into the dress by yourself and if the attendant or a friend is tying the corset part tighter, your back will still be covered. i've even seen mormon brides wear this dress with a higher modesty panel so it comes all the way up their back. i really like maggie sottero's grace kelly but there are probably other corset back dresses out there that provide coverage too.
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It's about 9 months and 29 days t'ill my wedding and besides that fact that I havent really done anything!, one thing that I can't keep putting off is that I have to start looking for a dress! I have been to some stores to look at wedding dresses and I saw a very beautiful one at David's Bridal and it was on sale for like $400, reg. price $1,000. I want to go try on some dresses, but since I was about 14 years old I've had backne and I now mostly have scars, which I hate!! I don't want to go try on dresses because I am embarresed that people will see my back. Does someone that works at the shop actually go in and help you zip up the dress (like I've seen on TV) or can someone like my mom do that instead? And do I have to go out of the fitting room so that they can see me with the dress on or can I just have like my mom and maid of honor go in the fitting room and take a look without me having to go out and risk other customers seeing me?
I wish I could do something to get rid of my scars in these 9 months, but I have no money and can't afford a dermatologist. I have a cousin who also has backne scars but she does not care what other people think at all and she is not self concious about it. She always wears strapless tops and I would never do that. I am so emberassed of my acne scars that I don't really even let my FI see my back and we have been a bf/gf for almost 7 years. I dont know what I'm gonna do when I get married. He says he does not care but I see myself in the mirror and think how horrible my back looks.
But anyways, back to the dress problem. So can you ladies please tell me how the dress fitting goes and if I can avoid other people seeing my back? Or will I have to buy a dress off a catalog so that it arrives a few weeks before my wedding and hope it fits me great? on the day od the wedding I offcourse plan on wearing something to cover my back.
Thank you.