- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Why is it that after you make a decision you realize how unhappy you will be? Last night I was put on the spot when my fiance looked at me and said “Should we tell them, or was it, Should I tell him?”… I was sitting down at a table with my fiance, and my fiance’s best friend and his friend’s girlfriend, we will call her “Jen”.. As my fiance asked his friend to be the best man, I felt like thoughts were circling now to my direction. I was truely expecting my fiance to release information about the reception location we had in mind to be secretive, so I said I don’t care..I soon found out it was bridal party ahhhh. Out of awkwardness and guilt, I asked Jen to be in the bridal party. Now that I’ve been able to recap, I can’t believe I did that!!! Now I don’t even know if I want a bridal party anymore as drastic as that is.. This whole bridal party situation has been stressful it’s self and I’m at the point where I don’t want to hurt anyone’s stupid freakin feelings anymore.. Let me explain:
My fiance and I are also friends with 4 other couples..that the best man and Jen are close with.
My bridal party includes: 1 sister, 4 close friends from highschool, 1 close friend, and adding my fiance’s sister in respect. I have a total of 6 already…and Jen 7
I knew from the start that I couldn’t add all of the girlfriends in the group I have become friend’s with since I met my fiance… even though all the guys will be in my fiance’s bridal party. I’m able to cut girls out of the bridal party but my fiance can’t.. which that itself means I have slot to open. I already on top of his 8 men..I also wanted my 3 cousins in the bridal party there like brothers to me. Instead of the girl friends I would add my cousins against any girls anytime!
Jen has been around (of course), she’s my fiance’s best man’s girl. So I have had to hangout with her.
The issue I have with Jen takes place about 2 years ago, as of today I realize, I’m still bothered by her…even though when I see her in person it’s okay. I’m not sure if I took it the wrong way but please let me know your thoughts.
I was meeting my fiance’s parents for the first time and I was incredibly nervous. His best friend and his girlfriend tagged along because it was my fiance’s sister’s baby shower. It was difficult to get to know my fiance’s mother because of how talkative Jen was, and extremely helpful… I felt as if his mother was interested in her more.
We were leaving his parent’s place, and I was crushed..and hurt because my fiance’s mom gave Jen some flowers from her garden and I got nothing being his son’s girlfriend. Soon after.. I can’t remember if it was the day before my birthday or the day of….butttt I got a text from Jen, and it included a picture of the flowers she had gotten from my fiance’s mother, letting me know, like she said, “look how beautiful the flowers that ____ ‘s mom gave me!” I was crushed. I suppose now 3 years, I haven’t’ been able to let that go.. I confronted her once about it.. but since then things have been okay. I try to let it go because it’s my fiance’s best friend’s girl but its hard. Thats probably why she has no other girl friends besides the girls in the group. And now that I asked her to be in the wedding party, I feel like I don’t even want a bridal party anymore… not to mention the other girls in the group im going to crush.
Anyways I would appreciate it if anyone could help me! I would really appreciate it..PLEASE HELP.. I know this is a big dilema..