(Closed) PUT ON THE SPOT–stressing about the Decision I Made

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh man, that txt was realllllllly weird!!!!!!   Sounds like you got caught up in the moment when asking the buddy to be best man.  crap!  I guess you have to decide if adding one more girl is something you can deal with, or if it’s worth it to speak up and “take it back”, which will cause massive awkwardness.

Post # 4
435 posts
Helper bee

If you really don’t want her in the bridal party I’d tell her right away.  Can you call her and explain that you got caught up in the excitement of planning, but you really haven’t had any time to make any decisions and ask her if she would undersand if you didn’t have her as a bridesmaid?

Post # 5
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wait did you ask her specifically to be a BM? You can always ask her to be the guest book attendant, tell her that’s what you actually meant. If you asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man then you kind of have to go with it now, unless you want to risk potentially ruining FI’s friendship with the Boyfriend or Best Friend. You have a large bridal party, put her on the end and don’t give it a second thought. She’s not a Maid/Matron of Honor so she wlll only be showing up to things and in group pictures which you probably won’t get framed anyway. 

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